Jezza Dumped!

[Just-Jude]

He's been going through hell for her and still is! Why couldn't she have waited another year? Can she ever be trusted with men again?

http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/jeremy-forrest-dumped-schoolgirl-lover-2644593

[Sqad]

jim

\\\\ I can't accept the idea that because this was a human failing we should overlook it and shrug our shoulders,\\\\

I agree and i haven't suggested that.

ummmm.........."respect " to me......is an endogenous emotion which may or may not be felt, seen or perceived by everyone.

Sex?.........to me. that it "mainly" physical.

[ummmm]

The actual act of sex is physical. The lead up to it is emotional so if you're having lustful feelings for a minor, married person, patient etc etc...that's when respect should kick in.

[Sqad]

ummmm...thanks...I will try and remember that.

[andy-hughes]

sqad - as a male teacher of teenage girls, you accept what goes with the job.

That is - gorgeous voluptuous sexually alluring young women will develop crushes on you, and make sexual advances to you.

As a mature individual, and in a position of responsibility, you undertake to see these behaviours for what they are - initial sexual feelings for the nearest man outside family with whom a girl has regular contact. It is about exploring burgeoning adult feelings mixed up with a mass of contradictory hormones and confusion.

As a teacher, and a mature adult, the responsibility lies with the teacher to gently but firmly deal with these situtations with tact and diplomacy, and avoid anything getting out of hand.

To behave in any other way is a betrayal of your profession, your position of trust, and your presupposed ability to act like a responsible adult.

I can find no way whatever of justifying this man's behaviour - the girl behaved to type, and he exploited her through his own immaturity, and is now paying the price under the law.

Finding rational and reasonable answers that excuse his actions are virtually impossible, and tutting and saying he was 'human' or 'weak' simply doesn't cut it.

[Sqad]

andy-hughes

\\Finding rational and reasonable answers that excuse his actions are virtually impossible, and tutting and saying he was 'human' or 'weak' simply doesn't cut it. \\

and that is where our opinions differ.

[andy-hughes]

Sqad - fair enough.

[starone]

Personally, I reckon he was a silly fool to think it would last. When I was her age I had a romance a week, some real and some imagined. No reason to think she is any different.

[andy-hughes]

starone - I think you have the crux of the issue right there - the difference in thinking.

For the girl it was everything - but just for now, but for him, it was everything, enough to lose his family and career over.

As I have said previously - one half of this sorry business can be excused for being giddy, hormonal, confused, immature and foolish - but only one half.

[pixie373]

This wasn't his "human failing". He succeeded! He was just wrong. It was premeditated and deliberate and happened over many weeks. It can't be brushed off as a lapse or mistake.

[andy-hughes]

Sqad thinks so, although I think, with Just-Jude, he is in a minority on here.

[pixie373]

I hope so. It would be very sad if adults couldn't take responsibility for their own actions.