AOG - "Oh for goodness sake Andy get off your high horse of PC outrage, and stand up to reality."
I am sorry to read that you think my view is based on my 'high horse of PC outrage' and that I should ' ... stand up to reality."
My reality is this - if a woman walks into a room stark naked and chats to every man in the place, she still has a right to her perogative of saying no to anyone about anything.
The notion that a woman being in a certain place at a certain time, dressed in a certain way, and behaving in a certain way means that she is giving off non-verbal signals that she is willing to be sexually assaulted is frankly ludicrous.
My experience with women is not huge by any stretch of the imagination, but one thing i have learned is this - if a woman wishes a man to make an approach in a sexual manner, she will let him know. If she is not sending out any such signals, and the man acts as though she is, and proceeds to a sexual assault, then the notion that he was 'led on' etc. ad nauseum, simply does not provide any defence whatsoever.
If a woman struggles and says 'No', it's a reasonable conculsion that any apparent indications of attraction have been misread, and any man with any degree of respect and control will stop at that point, and apologise.
To continue on the basis that trhe woman must have been 'interested' because of the aforementioned behaviour / dress / location is absolutely no defence what ever for any man in any situation.
it is not about decided complicity by the victim, it is about a man seeing an opportunity to behave appallingly, and taking it, regardless of the reactions of his victim at the time.
If you see that as being on my 'PC high horse', then I am delighted to say 'Giddy up!"