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How Would You React To This?
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How would you react? Told this afternoon..... Only grandson phones to say...you are going to be great grandparents....hmmm.
He's 19 she is 23, he is out of work living with parents....no chance of a job....or I doubt it. Will have to reside with my daughter....in unsuitable 3 bed house....and no prospects of providing for family at the moment.
I like the idea of being g/grandparent...BUT not that he cannot provide for new family.....how would you deal with it, cope with news.... I am gutted for the immediate future, can only hope he gets a job, but where do they live, how does he hope to provide a home for his new family....?
He's 19 she is 23, he is out of work living with parents....no chance of a job....or I doubt it. Will have to reside with my daughter....in unsuitable 3 bed house....and no prospects of providing for family at the moment.
I like the idea of being g/grandparent...BUT not that he cannot provide for new family.....how would you deal with it, cope with news.... I am gutted for the immediate future, can only hope he gets a job, but where do they live, how does he hope to provide a home for his new family....?
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"...and they arent asking you to feed the child or change his nappies." Quite so, PP. But it will be up to the taxpayer to support them. Personally I'd be furious that the silly sod and his girlfriend were so irresponsibl e as to create another mouth to feed when they can scarcely feed themselves and to impose even more on my daughter's hospitality. People in this...
20:03 Thu 16th Jan 2014
It's a hard one, but it seems to be the way of the world these days. Very few young people can afford to move out of the parental home until they are in their 30s. If the girl is working, that's a bonus - it's no longer the sole responsibility of the man to provide a home for his family, it's a shared responsibility.
Not necessarily, trt. I had my first child at 21, after working with horses and earning next to nothing. We knew nothing about benefits and struggled for a few years without any outside help. I had 3 in 3 years and worked from home doing book-keeping and OU courses. I went back to work as soon as i stopped breast-feeding. But those babies gave me all the motivation i needed.
Aw wow thanks so much for replying. I feel all those emotions...I want to be - g/ grandparent but what chance do they stand! I will support of course, but when daughter is partway thru breast cancer problems, us not good with health and rely on our wonderful family, I am just devastated that the silly boy did not even think of consequences.... Do they ever though...? I just knew this might happen but hoped it wouldn't for my darling daughters sake.
I really do feel for you - it happened last year to a friend, her initial reaction was 'They shan't live here,I will not be buying all sorts for the baby'.
The reality is, she took them in paid for all sorts of baby stuff and can be seen out and about most days with the baby in tow. The young couple should respect your daughter's health and not expect to be carried.
As a family you will get through, take care.
The reality is, she took them in paid for all sorts of baby stuff and can be seen out and about most days with the baby in tow. The young couple should respect your daughter's health and not expect to be carried.
As a family you will get through, take care.