Are The Parents Of This 16 Year Old Being Far Too Tolerant?

[anotheoldgit]

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2565640/So-let-YOUR-16-year-old-marry-barman-met-holiday-These-parents-did-tearing-family-apart.html

[Cloverjo]

I'm not sure why this is all over papers. But, anyway. The girl is old enough to get married, and I suppose it's better if the parents give their consent rather than have her run away. I'd be extremely worried if she were my daughter, but it's her life. The parents must be prepared to help her if it all goes wrong.

[emmie]

nor would i be happy, but as i and others have said she will go ahead anyway, and if the parents are adamant it won't happen, chances are she will run off and marry him,

[anotheoldgit]

emmie

/// its the parents duty to love and cherish her, and to her help in difficult times, not to mention guide her, ///

Yes, but it should not be a duty to love and cherish her, that should come naturally, and if they had guided her in the correct direction years ago, most likely she would not be now so experienced in sexual matters as she appears to be now.

[emmie]

hate to say this but she won't be the first or last sixteen year old or under to have had sex. How would any parent know, unless the child, teen told them. It is stupid i agree, and the parents shouldn't give in to her, but i feel that the worse would happen, they lose contact with her totally as she goes off to marry the man of her dreams, sixteen is quite a difficult age.

[ladybirder]

She's taking the pill but is she taking precautions against STDs, especially as they have both been sleeping around by the sound of it? Oh dear, glad it's not my daughter. Let's hope the time she spends with him and his family before the wedding will make her change her mind.

[emmie]

LB, so do i,

[smurfchops]

Chewn its Jaydene, not Jaylene, as emmie says. Of course this makes a difference. Not.

[emmie]

does it make any difference to the story, no, is it because some think it a made up name, chavvy, see where that's going. If she had been called Mary wouldn't you have still thought the same.

[TWR]

This MAY BE another stupid youngster that will get treated like a doormat, they never learn do they.

[anotheoldgit]

What is it with some parents especially English ones?

I have been abroad many times and one can see the mothers dressing up their teenage daughters so that they look like sisters and then thinking it great if the foreign waiters take a shine to their daughters.

Once abroad I was in the company of an Irish family and although they are only a few miles away from these shores, they were saying that some English girls let themselves down so much, when they are abroad.

[smurfchops]

Mary? Quite normal and sensible, you must agree emmie. Has anyone noticed how some children have surnames for christian names now, I think this started in the States. Sorry going off on a tangent here. Well off for my roast now bye all.

[emmie]

some of this has undoubtedly come from the US, it's not the name that is the problem though.

[BlueToffee]

Cloverjo, don't you mean WHEN it all goes wrong?

[emmie]

perhaps its the mothers who are flattered.
don't think it's just England either.

[sp1814]

I don't understand this story.

At the beginning, it's stated that the marriage is going ahead with the parents full blessing.

Then halfway down, it's reported that the parents aren't talking to Jaydene and want nothing to do with it and haven't spoken to her in months.

Also, I thought that legally you can't get married until you're 18. You can get married at 16/17, but doesn't that have to have parental/guardian approval??

[emmie]

and if it does go wrong, let's hope there aren't children involved, as they could become the problem if she is living in Turkey.

[emmie]

it does get confusing i must admit

The whirlwind romance between the pair has caused a deep rift, however – her disapproving paternal grandparents have cut off all contact with Jaydene and her family.

[pusskin]

Its the grandparents not talking to girl and her family sp.

[emmie]

sp
Marriage, in England and Wales, is legally recognised in the forms of both civil and religious unions. The legal minimum age to enter into a marriage in England and Wales is sixteen years although this requires parent consent if a participant is between the ages of sixteen and eighteen. There is a distinction between religious marriages, conducted by an authorised religious celebrant, and civil marriages, conducted by a state registrar. Marriage laws in England and Wales have historically evolved separately from marriage laws in other jurisdictions in the United Kingdom.