Any Suggestions Why He Makes Exuses?

[Agnes_Lovato]

So here it is. We met in school, he knew me, but He always was staring at me and afraid of starting convo. He dont have many friends especially girls. after a time we became really good friends, he wasnt so afraid to speak with me. I really liked him and i thought he also felt the same for me. He was giving me those signs. Was nice to me. Couldnt hold his eye contact long. Being close to me sometimes was glancing at me with his corner of eye. Was iniciating convo, but coudnt find good topic or continue convo, due to his shyness. One day he was smiling to me and another he could ignore me or give a poker face.

He knows how i feel for him, since one day i texted him and said straight. I couldnt wait more. But the only his answer was- :3 umm I suggested him to see, he said it would be great, but now is busy and only after week he could. So i said him to write me and he replied that he is shy, but however then he wrote that will try. The point is i dont think so that he was so busy, i know he had time. besides he started ignoring my msg. So i called him and he again found a reason not to meet. I know he wasnt lying to me about excuses, but i just cant understand one thing. If he likes me, why he cant make priorities? Or there are such types of men who are extremely afraid of women? or he treats me only as a friend and dont want to hurt me, but why then he was showing me those signs and gave me hope? I just have feeling that i scared him..

I cant see him face to face and that is a problem. I still dont understand if im rejected or he is not ready.. Any suggestions??

[CheekyChops]

He doesn't like you.

Or it could be that you are being too pushy and are scaring him away? I would be wary if someone was still writing, texting and ringing me even when I was ignoring them.

[joeluke]

He's just not that into you

[China Doll]

If he wanted to be with you then he would be. You need to move on.

[Old_Geezer]

Is he known for having a social phobia ? In any case it seems you made an effort and if he can't react favourably back then there is a limit to how long you should keep trying. Move on and let him sort out what he wants to do.

[boxtops]

Move on. If he really wanted to be with you, he would. Leave it. There is no rejection or readiness about it - it's not going anywhere. Look elsewhere!

[AlwaysConfused]

i can't hear the church bells ringing. Do not have any sleepless nights over this one . Get out, venture forth and catch another fish.

[Prudie]

You are rejected - and play it way cooler with the next one

[Agnes_Lovato]

if im rejected then he is gay..

[AlwaysConfused]

Do you suspect him to b so, Agnes?

[Prudie]

Good. You have great self-esteem

[boxtops]

Gay - that's just silly. Not all blokes fall over themselves to start relationships. He just doesn't want to be with you, not at the moment, anyway. Leave it, and don't spread rumours about him, it's not a friendly thing to do.

[Agnes_Lovato]

i had this in my mind, Can a dude like pages in FB with with women clothes?! Believe me i havnt seen any man like him

[boxtops]

Yes, why not? If you liked something, perhaps he liked it too, to show you had something in common.

Just out of interest - are you both still in school?

[tonyav]

What sort of womens clothes ?.
Gawd, wheres sqad when you need him.

[Prudie]

But you came up with several suggested reasons to why he hasn't responded to you and none of them were that you thought he was gay?

[Agnes_Lovato]

i mean dresses and i havnt liked it btw.
No we dont go to school

[boxtops]

Agnes - if you've not got anywhere with this guy so far and you've known him since school - it ain't going anyway. He's making excuses and you are pushing him far too hard so he's backing off. Just stop contacting him, stop thinking about him - if there's a distance between you for a few weeks, and he really wants to see you, he'll come looking. If he doesn't - forget it, you might have misread all the signs in the first place. Some blokes are just friendly without wanting to take it further.

[Tilly2]

Oh, you're a grown up?

[boxtops]

You said "if he likes me, why can't he make priorities"? Well, he has - you're not it.

[Agnes_Lovato]

yes we were in one school, but i know him maybe half of year..
But this question kills me. Why the hell he would reject me, if he never had a gf, he is nerdy( but i dont care), he not so atractive. in his situation i would be happy that a girl likes him.