That's not quite what I said, though. I didn't say that Bomber command were war criminals, I said that they were "war criminals" with the speech marks. As in, if anyone involved in the bombing of Dresden was a war criminal, then a) it would certainly not be the bomber crews themselves, and b) it would have to be the leaders at Bomber command. I then went on to agree with you that it was a legal not a moral point; that some of what went on at Dresden has been greatly exaggerated; that I had at one point fallen for this exaggeration, etc.
The single point on which we disagree substantially, so far as I can tell, is my use of the word "aggressor". I suppose there's also the matter of my competence to talk about this at all, but I certainly have rather more than just a faint idea. And I'm aware of the context, at least as much as it's possible to be for someone born many years after the event.
With reference to the interesting statistic that the British killed more Frenchmen than the Germans did British citizens in bombing raids, for example, this was almost inevitable as France at the time was an occupied country, with therefore legitimate military targets, and inevitably that would lead to "collateral damage". If I have a point, I think it's not so much that this was absolutely wrong, but that it is something we should be very sad about. Ditto the deaths of German citizens.
The lesser of two evils is still an evil, and still something to be avoided if at all possible. The horrors of War are such that we felt forced to do some horrific things ourselves. I don't think that is ever something to be celebrated, or to be dismissed quickly with an attitude of "well, they started it, so it's their own damn fault".
I would have made a very poor crewman in a Lancaster. Thankfully I never had to be.