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My Mum died from lung cancer in 1996. She had gone steadily downhill from the previous Xmas Eve, when they finally told her that the cancer wasn't operable. She did have a course of radium treatment, which was awful and only made matters worse.
She got rapidly worse and terribly skinny until late April, when she was admitted to a Hospice ( which was marvelous, by the way ) In her last few days she looked absolutely dreadful. But 2 days before she died, she suddenly looked much better.....quite bright and cheerful, so at least we all had that last day with her in a relatively happy mood. Dhe even had her hair done whilst still in bed !
The following day she reverted to her previous condition, and she had what my nephews described as her "walkman" fitted ( the small morphine pump, that was kept under her pillow ) She died very peacefully. I recall asking the Doctor what would happen at the end and he said that she would just fall asleep and then stop breathing...nothing distressing or dramatic would happen and he was 100% right.
My brothers and I are firmly convinced that the morphine "assisted" her final end, and we are also grateful for the measures taken to give her wonderful that final last day....steroids perhaps ? We will always be thankful for the Hospice and their unadmitted efforts to help my Mum along. We never asked any awkward questions before or afterwards. It just happened.
But I will make the point that her quality of life before admittance to the Hospice was quite frankly appaling. If I am ever in the same situation myself in the future, my brothers and families already know what my wishes are.