OK - ya narty by - why arent you a member of a union ? they are very good on this
otherwise - CAB - they are also very good on employment issues such as you have raised
or me ( no no I am too modest .... I can't etc)
I think s6 of the current employment act says that an employer if he has a disciplinary procedure he MUST make it available to the employees
but oddly he doesnt have to have a disciplinary procedure
if it is a small employer - then he doesnt have to separate the duties of investigation, procedure, prosectuion, being a judge and jury ( coz there may to be enough people in the firm to do that )
but he DOES have to follow the rules of natural justice
making the employee aware of what he is accused of but there is NO duty to disclose a complaint letter
and he has to allow a right to reply
but nothing else in your post
your right of reply seems to be not as you wanted but that does not mean you didnt have a rt of reply
as far as I know you have no say in who is or is not present during a meeting .
if you boycotted a meeting
they could fire you
if you then sued in an employment tribunal at least one case I know of was thrown out as the employee had not followed local remedies
( that is there is a duty of an employee to follow the employers disciplinary procedures even if the employee doesnt like them - sortta kinda makes sense really )
I am retty sure you have a right to be accompanied and you should do so ( ACAS figures show much greater success rates for employees who are accompanied )
erm andthat is about it
CAB will help