The Post Mrs Overall Had Planned.

[sunny-gness]

When MrsO received the gift of a kidney life changed dramatically for her. The kidney was a perfect match and worked straight away........she felt better than she'd done for years.....she had a new life and was loving it.

Her death was tragic......she fell and banged her head badly......the drugs she was taking to protect her new kidney caused her to bleed heavily and despite surgery to try to stop the bleeding she couldn't be saved.....

Just before she died we had a chat...full of fun, teasing and plans.
She also told me why she had asked that the thread telling us on AB that she'd had a kidney transplant should be removed.

"I want the news to come from me.......I want to tell what it's like to be living on dialysis....sometimes daily dialysis....to feel ill all the time while waiting and hoping for a transplant.....but knowing that another family will suffer if your dream comes true.
I want to be the one who tells how wonderful it is to receive a kidney.....to feel instantly well......and to pee! After years and years of waiting...to know you have a future with your family.....

I want to ask Abers to consider registering to donate organs if they haven't already......

I want it to be my words when they read about it."

I have written MrsO's words for you as best I can.......

I can't tell you how angry I am about her death......It's too hard to come to terms with and even after the beautiful service today....to believe I'll never see her again.......

MrsO wanted no flowers but asked for donations to Kidney Research. You may wish to do so in her memory.....

Much love...Gness....x

[pastafreak]

I never spoke much to Mrs O...but did read. These words had me shed a tear while at the same shout at the air around me about the injustices of life.
Let her too early death at least do some good and draw attention to the situation of others like her...I can think of one I know personally. Thank you Gness.

[waterboatman]

Thank You gness. It's good to know all went well. I was thinking of you all, I wish I could have been there.

She will indeed be sorely missed. I've carried a donor card since they were introduced, as did Vera, the children all carry one. I think everyone should.

As you say, a family will be grieving, but can feel proud of their loved one knowing that in death they are giving someone life.

[anneasquith]

If nothing else comes of the sad death of Mrs o, let's hope abers and their families and friends will consider organ donation and bone marrow donation.

[marval]

Thank you Gness, such good but sad words. It does not seem fair that she has gone. I am already on the donor list and will be pleased to make a donation to Kidney Research.

[Psybbo]

Thank you Gness, as usual she was thinking of others.xxx xx

[Mamyalynne]

Beautiful sentiments just as I would expect from MrsO - tragic she didn't get the chance to tell us herself but each of us can if we wish do a little to help others in the future.x

[DTCwordfan]

so much injustice but true; if folk sign up, then good will come from any untimely incident. I signed up, eyes included, a fair while ago, both sides of the Pond, depending where I expire and if I am usable. Please consider it.

[wolf63]

Her death was one I usually file away under 'stupid'. Of all that she had been through with her health (and if half of her stories were true she was a trouble magnet) and possessing a kidney that should do her for years this happened.

When she fell was it when she was hand-gliding off the top of the wardrobe?

I will miss her but not nearly as much as those (yourselves) who knew her and her family - she adored them.

My newest quote "Life is like a Dyson ~ it sucks big time".

[hellywelly4]

I signed up some years ago. Whether any of me will be any use remains to be seen, but transplant surgery is so wonderful these days, you never know. Thank you for that post, gness. Unbearably sad.

[queenofmean]

I'd love to donate but I don't know if I am allowed - Pancreas is out the question!
Mum was a donor but owing to her sudden passing she wasn't able to - I'd love to be able to fill the gap. Will ask tomorrow at Clinic.
I still can't get my head around it. I never met her but we did on the odd occasion have a chat - she was some woman, and she will be missed.

[Lie-in King]

Thank you gness, I think you've done Mrs O proud with this message. xx

[NoMercy]

Her family must feel very cheated.

There are many on AB who will miss her.

[EDDIE51]

Yes I'm on the donor list , everything available for donation.Also a long term blood donor with 48 donations so far.

[Tilly2]

An amazing woman, to go through all she went through with stoicism and strength and not let on to all and sundry that she was so poorly.

Her death is stupid and tragic. She should be enjoying life to the full.

I carry a donor card, why wouldn't I?

Goodbye, Mrs O. xx

[tinkerbell23]

Ma...i only saw this a few mins ago on another site- i am SO SORRY to read this!! What a tragedy..... Sleep tight Mrs O..... And if u need a chat Ma, get in touch.... Xx

[tonyav]

Terrible shame that Mrs O didn't get the chance to post about her kidney transplant.

Thanks gness.

[jennyjoan]

thanks gness - a nice post on her behalf.

[Cloverjo]

I have a donor card. They can take any bits of me that might be of use. I get angry with people who would take an organ for themselves or their children but won't donate their own organs.

I didn't know Mrs O apart from her posts here, but am saddened by her passing.