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Dealing With Dementia/amnesia .......
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Cut a long story short:
A close family friend had a heart attack, heart stopped for a few minutes, so brain was starved of oxygen.
As a result, she's ended up in a care home, diagnosed with severe amnesia.
She's fine remembering things from quite a while ago - it's her short term memory that's the problem.
My question is - what's the best way to deal with it??
For example, the other day the care home rang me and asked me to talk to her, as she was getting agitated. When I spoke to her, she told me that she thought her car had been stolen (she's been in the home for approx 4 months and car was sold approx 3 months ago). I've told her on numerous occasions that her car has been sold, but am I gong about this the wrong way??
Should I keep correcting her and hope things get better, or is it better to play along and go with what she says??
I keep getting conflicting advice, so I'm wondering if any of you lot have any ideas as to the best way to tackle things??
A close family friend had a heart attack, heart stopped for a few minutes, so brain was starved of oxygen.
As a result, she's ended up in a care home, diagnosed with severe amnesia.
She's fine remembering things from quite a while ago - it's her short term memory that's the problem.
My question is - what's the best way to deal with it??
For example, the other day the care home rang me and asked me to talk to her, as she was getting agitated. When I spoke to her, she told me that she thought her car had been stolen (she's been in the home for approx 4 months and car was sold approx 3 months ago). I've told her on numerous occasions that her car has been sold, but am I gong about this the wrong way??
Should I keep correcting her and hope things get better, or is it better to play along and go with what she says??
I keep getting conflicting advice, so I'm wondering if any of you lot have any ideas as to the best way to tackle things??
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Years ago my Mum had a brain haemorrhage and she was in hospital for 10 weeks. Some of this time she was on such strong medication she was very confused who family members were and said all manner of strange things - like getting very excited as she "had been to several funerals that morning" (she hadn't!) I asked the nurse how to react and she said in every case correct her quite firmly. We did this but made a joke of it all which made Mum laugh too so it diffused the situation. So my advice is tell her the truth about her car - it is perhaps the medication and should settle down soon.
Speaking as an ex clinician, I would want to know whether she is capable of understanding what has happened to her or not, and yes, whether she can read. If she can grasp the situation but not remember it then a notebook with “XXX (her name)”s book” or “XXX read this” on the cover can be helpful. As to how to deal with it, do whatever minimises her distress. Don’t try to reason with her or “correct firmly” unless this helps and its rare that it does. Sometimes a general reassurance can be more helpful, something like “Your car is safe and you don’t need it tonight” Sometimes sadly all that you can do is keep repeating the truth but gently and calmly. If she is distractible then a change of subject can help, as can drawing her attention to something she enjoys. I know that medication for people in these circumstances has got bad press but if she is agitated and unhappy for much of the time then it might be helpful, the one aim is to minimise her distress.
This brief article is american but offers good simple advice
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Thanks for the replies.
She is very much with it, apart from the short term amnesia. If you spoke to her and didn't know her, then you probably wouldn't know there was something wrong.
It's just when we speak to her, she says things which we know aren't right, such as the car .... or she needs running into town for some shopping .... or she needs to go home ....
She knows what happened to her; she knows why she's in the care home; but sometimes she'll ring us from the care home, saying she needs picking up from a different town ....
She is very much with it, apart from the short term amnesia. If you spoke to her and didn't know her, then you probably wouldn't know there was something wrong.
It's just when we speak to her, she says things which we know aren't right, such as the car .... or she needs running into town for some shopping .... or she needs to go home ....
She knows what happened to her; she knows why she's in the care home; but sometimes she'll ring us from the care home, saying she needs picking up from a different town ....
Giving me ideas now with the book.
It would need to be eye-catching, as she won't remember to read it.
I need to write something on the cover that will prompt her to read it when she's feeling agitated - prob be better to get her to write it in her own hand writing as well.
Any suggestions as to what to write on the cover and what to write on the inside??
It would need to be eye-catching, as she won't remember to read it.
I need to write something on the cover that will prompt her to read it when she's feeling agitated - prob be better to get her to write it in her own hand writing as well.
Any suggestions as to what to write on the cover and what to write on the inside??
I sort of agree with you and them Pixie. A direct barefaced lie is never a good idea, I think that the heading for that point is wrong....its not that lying is ok, more that the strict truth is not essential in terms of there’s no need to correct the patient if their factually inaccurate belief is harmless and persuasion and misdirection can be more helpful than force and coercion.....its amazing how often my Mum’s lovely GP would be passing her front door on visits elsewhere for instance........
My friend’s grandfather had alzheimers. When his wife (who he had totally forgotten) died, his daughter, my friend’s mum, wanted him to go to the funeral and to be told that his wife had died. My friend, who is also an Occupational Therapist, as I was, fought hard against this, saying that either he wouldn’t understand at all, or if he did, then it would distress him terribly for no good reason. She got her way, although the family’s circle of friends were most disapproving.
My friend’s grandfather had alzheimers. When his wife (who he had totally forgotten) died, his daughter, my friend’s mum, wanted him to go to the funeral and to be told that his wife had died. My friend, who is also an Occupational Therapist, as I was, fought hard against this, saying that either he wouldn’t understand at all, or if he did, then it would distress him terribly for no good reason. She got her way, although the family’s circle of friends were most disapproving.
That is true... Sometimes it is difficult. We had a lady of 92 with very advanced dementia. When her son died there was quite some debate about whether she would be told or not. She wasn't and I don't think she would have understood. But some part of her might have wondered why he no longer visited. It can be hard to tell.
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