I’M So Pleased I’M Not A Man

[naomi24]

Some here may remember me talking about my very elderly, rickety, potty, wonderful dog who was last summer taken for what we thought would be the final jab, only to be returned to us, after a little medication, full of beans. Sadly tonight he really was taken for his final jab and I am distraught. My husband had the awful job of taking him whilst I spent the time he was absent, weeping helplessly. Men, I salute you! How on earth do you do it without cracking up? Equality is all very well until it comes to things like this. I willingly confess I am simply not equal to such painful tasks. My thanks to all who have offered advice to me for my beloved dog through these pages. He will be missed – dreadfully. . x

[Mamyalynne]

Accept my condolences Naomi - it tears you apart I know.x

[naomi24]

Thank you. Awful... just awful.

[237SJ]

I am sorry for your loss. I do think men feel the pain but they have learned not to show it

[Lie-in King]

Oh how sad for you ((Naomi)), my condolences x

[baza]

I am sorry for the loss of your dog which you will both miss.
I have had to take two of our cats, both rescue cats, on their final visit to the vets, both times I left their baskets behind as I could not face walking out with an empty basket. Men are not always the strongest but someone has to do it.

[seekeerz]

I'm so sorry to read of your loss, it tears us apart when they have to leave us ..... We have the luxury of being able to cry, men think they have to be stoic, so perhaps we're better off ...maybe. xxx

[237SJ]

When I left home, I left my cat in the care of my Mum and when he had to be put down, it was my Mum who had to deal with it. Likewise, when my beloved Pusscat was put down 18 months ago, it was me who had to deal with it. There were no men involved. If you have to do something on your own then you have to deal with it.

[Jackdaw33]

So sorry for the loss of your dog. That is the principal reason why I have never owned a pet. Selfish, I know but...

[237SJ]

^ it's worth it for the love and good times that they give you.

[seekeerz]

absolutely agree, 237, I had to take my beloved cat as OH was away ...,think I walked around in a complete daze for several days...but I'd not be without my gang ( 3 dogs, 1 cat )

[wolf63]

I am sorry to hear about your boy Naomi.

My brother came with me when I had to take my first dog to the vet. We were both in a bit of a state but we knew that we had no option but to say goodbye.

At least these days most people understand the emotional connection that we have with our furry family members.

[nailit]

sorry about your dog Naomi.
//Men, I salute you! How on earth do you do it without cracking up?//
We don't, we just don't show our emotions like women do. Its been my unfortunate task on several occasions to either take pets to be put down or (in the case of some smaller pets) to put them down myself.
Always had a weep when on my own.

[david small]

There is no weakness in showing emotion after losing a loved one. As a man, I know I will cry when our loved Cockatiel of 24 years passes.

[waterboatman]

Naomi I'm so sorry to read of the loss of your best friend. It's always been me that has to deal with such. I can assure you my lovely, it ain't easy. I still feel sad when I think of them. After all, they are members of the family. The Labrador we had when the boys were little was a star. They both learned to walk by holding his tail, which ended up looking like a Morris Minor starting handle. He put up with it all, he slept under their cot and always came to tell us if they were not sleeping peacefully. When they went out to play he went with them. Heaven help any adult, or other dog, that came too close to them!
Your wonderful elderly, rickety, potty pup, (they are always pups, aren't they!) will always be with you, in your mind and in your heart.
My deepest condolences to you. xxx

[Baldric]

Naomi, so sorry for your loss, been there a few times, it's never easy, trust me, I'm a man.
I have cried my eyes out at the loss of some Pets, the ones that just get to you, you know what I mean.

[Old_Geezer]

Sorry to hear Naomi. Hope the more intense feeling of loss passes before long.

As for the not cracking up thing; one understands at an early age society doesn't think it manly to flinch so learns to detach sufficiently to do what must be done in such circumstances. I think we are all subject to similar pressures.

[murraymints]

oh dear Naomi..I am so sorry , I know your heart will be breaking, that big empty hole that your wee boy filled will be very painful for a while, but think of all the happiness you shared, in time your ache will fade....xx

[tamborine]

So sorry for your loss and pain but it was best for your dog. Its always the 'head of the house' that has the awful jobs. As my OH is no more its down to me to despatch ailing pets. Fortunately my vet comes here and sees to it, while I hide out of sight.

[Cloverjo]

So sorry, naomi. Thankfully I've never had to do that. The men around me have always done it.
I've never owned a dog - I've always had cats - but I get close to imagining how you feel. I still think of my previous lovely cats.

[DTCwordfan]

sorry to hear your news - just as with a human, remember the good times that you had together.