Unwarrented Personal Attacks And The Derailing Of Threads In Other Catagories.

[kvalidir]

I have just been dragged into a disagreement on another thread in News, which was toddling along well until a member posted amongst other things this. Does anyone else find the constant niggling of some 'members' determined to create a fight or bad feeling in serious catagories unpleasant? I've been forced to post this as I didn't want to facilitate the member further derailing Cassa's perfectly normal thread but I am not letting this stand.

//Grow up girl please
Your business is none of my business but boy do we hear so much of your gushing mush about YOUR Man.
Word from the wise. A real man does not like to hear a woman/young lady be referred to as "my Man" . I would not refer to my wife as my woman. I do not possess her and she is enjoying her freedom as her own woman in the USA as i am enjoying my self as my own man whilst she is away.
Before I met my wife many years before and was a young cadet I was happy to have a great relationship with a stunning girl of my own age . When I was aware that she was gushing to all her friends and family how we would set up house together and have 5 kids etc I realised she was planning my life for me.That is a big turn off for a man. I had a future career to study for and could not share a fantasy of a girl who only thought of herself and babies. You appear to be steering the wrong direction.
Very sorry chill .I have sidetracked your OP. I will not complain if our tete a tete is deleted. It is entirely off subject and could be discussed elsewhere. Apologies again//

You want to discuss it elsewhere so we will. Here.

[kvalidir]

To answer you, he calls me his prtner, his girl or his lady and I call him my partner, my boyfriend or my man, he's cool with that, again not your concern.
He asked me to move there. He supports my career. He is keen on having children and was the first one to bring it up, I was never going to have kids because of my health situation, so kindly stop attacking my relationship. If you don't like it- tough.

[AuntLydia]

For goodness sake kval no one has forced you to post this you have done it for narcissistic reasons. How about just leave it and show how grown up you are?

[Mamyalynne]

Threads just lately are becoming more and more diverted into personal jibes and it does the site and members no good at all.

If I happened on the site as a new member as it is today I'd not stay around long.

[kvalidir]

AL with the greatest respect you don't have to comment, if you don't like it you are free to move along or join in, I'm good either way, but you are NOT the AB police.

[Baldric]

If this OP is not a Personal Attack I don't know what is.

[kvalidir]

It's not, the poster asked to discuss it elsewhere, so here we are, he's free to come and discuss it without derailing someone else's thread.

[AuntLydia]

Totally agree with Baldric. Not worth anymore of my time, have a good evening.

[kvalidir]

Have a good evening AL. x

[Ellipsis]

They are known as ad hominem attacks:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ad_hominem

Most people revert to them now and again, often without realising it until later, but they are the norm for trolls.

[nailit]

im been attacked on another thread for enquiring/seeking advice on my sons GF heavy periods. Theres some d 1ck head about...

[bainbrig]

I’m probably not qualified to answer, as I’m not a proper man.

I don’t drink, don’t like football, haven’t had a fight since 1965, cry at sentimental films, and wouldn’t mind a rag-doll for a present.

And I would never address anyone as ‘girl’, tell them to grow up, or accuse them of talking gushing mush.

So a very poor example of manhood.

I have this naive notion that people are people, no matter what their genitalia.

My life-long partner (we married 50-ish years ago to get a tax rebate to buy a 2nd-hand Wolseley) is her own person. I try and support her in all she does, as she does me. She is a wonderful person, with more integrity than most people will ever have.

You, kvalidir, strike me as honest, happy, and similarly full of integrity. If ever you happen to write something with which I disagree, I’ll argue with you, person to person.

It’s simply a matter of respect.

BillB

[gness]

I was getting quite interested there, BainB......til I got to the bit where you had a wife..... :-(

Joking aside....you seem okay!..... x

[kvalidir]

Quite ellipsis, getting rather common on ere fo late too.

I did notice that Nailit :/

Thank you bill, as I've said before it makes you wary of enjoying nice news on here, one poster was slagged off because she had a orangery for god's sakes. It's ridiculous x

[kvalidir]

Hi Gness, are you back?

[anneasquith]

With all due respect you really should take a break from AB. ( and before you accuse me again of following you round the site) I rarely post on your threads .

[Mamyalynne]

Whilst you're here Anneasquith, did you want me to report my Capstick comes home video?

[kvalidir]

With all due respect Anne, yet again I will tell you that I am not going anywhere thanks very much, it's a little weird and creepy that you keep harping on the matter. If you don't like it you have the option to ignore me, as you'll find I generally ignore you.

[anneasquith]

m. You best do what you wish . :+)

[kvalidir]

Indeed I shall, whyever would I do otherwise? It would be like me suggesting you take a break from the site because you can't seem to stop telling other users off for what they post. That'd be strange eh?

[anneasquith]

Omg, this is one crazy place at times lol .