Well That Went Better Than Expected

[nailit]

I posted last week that I was attending my ex mother in laws funeral today (who died on xmas day)
Wasn't particularly looking forward to it as my ex hasn't spoken to me in 7 years and blanks me whenever we happen to pass in the street.
However the first words in 7 years were passed between us today. Only briefly but sincerely. Even had a quick hug.
Humans are funny creatures eh?

[Mamyalynne]

Glad all was well.

[Baldric]

So pleased it went well for you.

[murraymints]

phew..good stuff, pleased it passed well

[Theland]

Hope you can renew your friendship.
Happy for you.

[Togo]

Glad for you Nails. Sometimes water and bridges do indeed have a different function than the obvious. You can let the baggage go now bud.

[nailit]

//Hope you can renew your friendship//
You never know Theland. Might be stretching it a little there tho.

//You can let the baggage go now bud//
Not really any baggage left on my part tbf Togo. Ive moved on.
However after the funeral I spent ages talking to my ex's son (ex stepson if there is any such thing?)
Cant believe how much hes changed. Turned out to be a really pleasant, mild mannered, young university student. I home educated him for a few years so must have done something right.
All in all a sad day (I loved my ex mil) but not a bad one.

[ummmm]

Glad it went well.

[Peter Pedant]

I dont blank people
because when they do it to me - -usually in the manner of "hey look everyone I am blanking Peter! and it is deffo the cleverest thing I have done this year"
it looks so rooooooooood!
(if pressed I can put on a lost baby seal look er crossed with Marilyn sashaying down the platform)

[Theland]

I am sure your "ex stepson" would elcome you back into his life, to the benefit of you both.

[Peter Pedant]

quite right
a funeral is a time of reflection - and thanks for a life ( very RC there)
and not a place to continue vendettas

[Tilly2]

I'm glad that the occasion wasn't soured by previous acrimony.

[nailit]

//I am sure your "ex stepson" would elcome you back into his life, to the benefit of you both//
Theland, after me and the ex split up it wasn't only the grief of losing someone that I loved but also losing a kid that I loved as my own.
He has his own life at Uni now and I am just a distant memory. I have to accept and respect that. Would be nice tho to rekindle a relationship with him. He was a brainy little kid who always had 'university material' written all over him.

[sadielady]

Glad your day went well

[LadyCG]

I'm glad things went as well as they could. You were right to go and pay your respects and I'm sure your late MIL would have been touched to know you still held her in high regard.

[Patsy33]

Things are never as bad as what we may think! At least you now have peace of mind. Glad all turned out well.

[nailit]

//I'm sure your late MIL would have been touched to know you still held her in high regard//
She rang me a few days before xmas LCG, we were on the phone for ages chatting about this and that. She was a truly lovely person and we friends even after myself and her daughter split. Very sad.

[nailit]

I texted her on xmas morning to wish her a happy xmas, not knowing that she had died a few hours previously. I felt such a t**** for doing that.

[Tilly2]

Don't beat yourself up. It was a nice gesture.

[TonyV]

Glad you went and things went better than you expected - well done mate

[nailit]

Thanks for all replies.
Im a bit drunk, been a bit of a day for me! :-)