Too Much Time On Their Hands (Part 97)

[andy-hughes]

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/av/stories-51113371/submitting-to-my-husband-like-it-s-1959-why-i-became-a-tradwife

Why does this woman think that her lifestyle is so wonderful that she has to film it and share it with the world?

If it suits her, fine, but honestly, who else cares???????

[emmie]

am i the only one who had mother, grandmother, great grandmother all work. They did the household stuff too, my mother didn't get any help from my father at all.

[ludwig]

// Seems odd to me, //

The 'submitting to my husband' part of it is bollux. No-one should submit to anyone in a partnership. You come to an arrangement that works for you both, and if that means one of you goes out to work and the other stays and home, fine. If it means you go to work, also fine.

If it means neither of you works, still fine, as long as you don't expect anyone else to fund that arrangement.

[ludwig]

me // If it means you go to work, also fine. //

..should say 'If it means you both go to work, also fine'.

[Mamyalynne]

During my married life I held the purse strings and dealt with all things financial, whether it was during my time as a stay at home wife/mother/homemaker or during our joint running of the businesses.

No two set us are the same.

[emmie]

folly if one thinks it;s ok to be submissive to one's husband, smacks of slavery.

[Mamyalynne]

Not sure how we are defining submission here, no doubt some wives do but staying at home can also give you freedoms that working women struggle to cram into their day.

[emmie]

no woman i know wants to be a stay at home mum, they all work, and have support from their respective husbands

[Mamyalynne]

Choices, yes - my Mum would have loved to be at home but had to toil in a filthy cotton mill with many of her counterparts.

[Bazile]

Yes ,women should be barefoot , pregnant and around the kitchen sink

[Bobbisox1]

I too ‘hold the purse strings ‘ like Mamya ,but not literally ,we have joint accounts but I’m the one who deals with insurances , phones, broadband , holidays ,flights etc and when we had a mortgage it was me finding the best deal, now though, if either need something we’d get the money from the bank and there be no quest asked

[woofgang]

whatever floats your boat but yes who cares.....It seems to be a thing that pops up from time to time....anybody remember the book The Surrendered Wife....that gained traction till it turned out she was on her third marriage. I agree with APG though, her (the tradwife's) version is a construct that never actually existed.

[Zacs-Master]

I always find these type of posts amusing. OP claims no one is interested but it's interesting enough to want people's opinions.

Funny old world, innit.

[naomi24]

Each to their own. I just hope if she ever falls ill and finds herself in need of help that he's sufficiently 'trained'. ;o)

[ToraToraTora]

where can I get one of these "trad wives"?

[Apc2604]

Bobbie 12.55

We are same!

[New Judge]

//Why does this woman think that her lifestyle is so wonderful that she has to film it and share it with the world?//

For the same reason as people take a picture of their dinner and make sure it is posted on "social media" before they eat it (thus allowing it to spoil meantime). It's because they labour under the mistaken belief that people are actually interested in them and what they are doing when in fact nothing is further from the truth. As well as that they are nincompoops.

[Cloverjo]

We don’t care, Andy. But some people do, as NJ says. People put all bits of their lifestyle on the internet. I’m not remotely bothered by what anyone has had for lunch or how their legs look like hot dog sausages or whatever.

[AuntPollyGrey]

I'm genuinely intrigued that some posters state their parents and grandparents were working wives. I've always assumed, through watching history and documentary programmes, that post WWII once a female was married they had to stop working, married women were not allowed to work , and certainly not once they fell pregnant. I was discussing this the other day with a friend as last weeks call the midwife included a storyline with a heavily pregnant woman who was working,desite being married and having a toddler at home.

[david small]

Fanny Craddock wasn’t submissive, poor Johnny.
I admit to being chauvinist when my wife lets me.

[Bobbisox1]

APG, I think it was more when families fell on hard times that the woman took a factory job ( lots worked in munitions during the war) or took washing and /or irioning in to supplement the husbands wage,My own Mam didn't work as my Dad had a faily well paying job as a Radio engineer, later to become tv and radio, I don't recall any of my friends Mams working either