Does This Mean That My Collegue Doesn’t Want To Meet For A Catch Up?

[Raidergal2022]

Please excuse me I’ve no common sense when it comes to people

An old collegue left last November and ive not seen him for a while. He texted now and again asking how I was, I saw him in passing last month. He has said on several texts that we should meet for a coffee/ catchup and I agreed.

I happened to have a flask of his in my car boot he left in the office. I forgot about it he asked where it was a month ago. He said to keep hold of it as it would be a good excuse for a coffee

Today he texted asking if he could collect it off me at work

I’m a bit socially inept. Does this mean he doesn’t want to meet for a catch-up anymore ?

[jno]

possibly. When he picks it up, why not ask if he's got time for that coffee?

[Raidergal2022]

Jno, if this indicates he doesn’t want to I don’t want to be pushy.

He has been suggesting we have a catch-up for the past few months I’ve told him to let me know when he gets time he said he will

[pastafreak]

Is this the same colleague?

https://www.theanswerbank.co.uk/Society-and-Culture/Question1782506.html

I've had similar happen. I usually wait for them to make the next move if I've already agreed to meet up at some point. I've come to the conclusion that if no meet-up is agreed fairly soon, then it's not meant to happen. Sometimes I wish I pursued things because I don't have a huge circle of friends, certainly no one I really trust.
As jno suggests, ask him on the spot.

[Raidergal2022]

Yea just disappointed really as it’s like he never wants to see me again, I’m not being dramatic as I can’t see any other meaning to this

[pastafreak]

Were you hoping for a more meaningful relationship?

[abbeyleigh]

Have a chat with him when he collects it

[Raidergal2022]

Pastafreak yes being honest I was, not going to lie

[Raidergal2022]

and say what abbeyleigh..

I think with me being female I don’t want to be too pushy if you know what I mean as might come across the wrong way

I guess all I want is to keep in touch with him

[tomus42]

The fact that he texted you first and then asked about the flask means that he wants to see you again.
If he didn't he would have just written it off.

He probably has no sense when it comes to people either, which means you're well suited.

[Raidergal2022]

Tomus42 - it just seems like he’s changed his mind with him saying keep hold of the flask until we meet for a catch-up then suddenly asking for it back in what will be a quick exchange

About the no sense thing people do say he is odd. He once persuaded me to apply for a job working in a more senior role with him, he rang/texted several times asking if I’d apply and he even made some company plans with me (I helped him out a bit for a few shifts).

Then he suddenly went distant, interviewed me and gave it to someone else. He said I wasn’t very efficient on the days I helped him out and he wanted more output lol. True story

[tomus42]

It sounds like you just need to tell him that you like him and ask him if he feels the same about you. That will obviously be hard but I'm sure you will feel better when you've done it.

[Raidergal2022]

Tomus, I can’t like him in that way he’s taken I mean just in a friendly way ha