Jay Blades ...Who'd Have Thunk It?

[ToraToraTora]

https://news.sky.com/story/the-repair-shop-presenter-jay-blades-charged-with-controlling-and-coercive-behaviour-against-estranged-wife-13213783

 

[douglas9401]

Me. Always found him a bit off.

Anyway, I'm sure he'll have everything good as new in jig time.

[Togo]

Notice how the "National Broadcaster" has an uncanny knack of employing, and promoting the presence, of wrong uns? Birds of a feather   ...  and all that maybe. 

[Barsel]

You just don't know what goes on behind closed doors.

[THECORBYLOON]

There could be dozens of, "wrong uns" in any company with thousands of employees but we don't get to hear about them because they're not well-known, either nationally or regionally.

[barry1010]

Blimey, he hasn't been tried yet.

[Barmaid]

Leaving aside for one minute that he has only been charged and not convicted, why would you say "who'd have thunk it?"?  

Absolutely NOTHING surprises me about who might be the victim and who might be the perpetrator of this type of crime.  It is a particularly insidious type of offence and it is very difficult to detect unless the victim has the support and strength to report it and even then it is not well understood by the police and if it is, it is very difficult to prosecute.

[jourdain2]

I hadn't particularly thought it of him, but then again - I don't know him.  Having been a victim of  coercive, controlling behaviour (which escalated into violence when I would not comply) I am willing to believe that it can happen from any male (or female) if the object, well, objects!

[tomus42]

Who'd have thunk this...

BBC News - Trial set for TV auctioneer accused of assault
https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-england-derbyshire-68230233

[smurfchops]

He seemed so nice and he was doing so well, building himself up on TV,  and then it seems he got too big for his boots and spoilt it all.  If it's true that is...

[DarceyK123]

There was always something about Jay Blades that I didn't like, couldn't put my finger on it. 

But Charles Hanson, I used to really like him, but you never know what goes on in private do you? 

[renegadefm]

Problem is these days controlling can seem out of context. 

If you look at how husbands used to control their wives in the decades gone by, Jay Blades is probably an Angel in comparison. 

[renegadefm]

Lets put it this way, I remember my best friend's mum complaining of tooth ache, and her husband literally had enough of her winging about it, so grabed her hold, got her in a head lock and grabbed hold of a pair of pliers and literally ripped out her problem tooth in front if our very eyes.

 

Now that has stuck with me ever since, but guess what she actually thanked her husband because in minutes she was pain free, and it didn't cost a penny. 

 

Different times! 

[vulcan42]

He always struck me as a limelight hogger on that programme, one of the reasons I stopped watching it. The other was the repairers were constantly self praising. 

[Barmaid]

Unfortunately and thankfully,  we do not live in a time where husbands can control their wives and vice versa.

It used to be the case that a man could not rape his wife and a conviction for a man beating his wife was rare.

You cannot compare those who control and coerce with what happened in years gone by. This is comparing apples with pears.

It is an awful thing and has long lasting impact on those who are victims.

[Barmaid]

Fortunately not unfortunately!

[Barmaid]

Under no circumstances can "controlling be out of context". The story Renegade gives demonstrates this perfectly. She did not consent to something he thought was for her own good. She had no choice - the outcome is irrelevant. But that, apparently, is OK, because it was OK afterwards.

[renegadefm]

Barmaid, 

 

I didn't agree it was right to man handle his wife, I was in shock, but the fact she thanked him afterwards said it all really. It was the 70's after all, and I know it was no more ok to do then as it isn't now, but the control thing I think was viewed as less negative then compared to now. 

Women we're sadly still attached to the kitchen sink so to speak, and looking after the kids while the husband grafted all day earning enough money to run the home, but at the time it wasn't viewed as a bad thing. 

 

Times are extremely different now. One wage coming in wouldn't be enough to sustain a family home. 

 

But thank God somewhere along the line women found their voice. 

[davebro3]

As my mum used to say "Hell hath no fury like a woman's corns".

[davebro3]

//Women we're sadly still attached to the kitchen sink so to speak, and looking after the kids while the husband grafted all day earning enough money to run the home//

This was NOT the case where I grew up - most of the wives worked in the cotton mills, husbands in cotton or engineering.

[Canary42]

////But that, apparently, is OK, because it was OK afterwards.////

A case of the end justified the means. But I agree with you Barmaid, it is certainly not OK.