Mens problems!! - Please don't make fun!!

[yoshimoto]

PLEASE DON'T GET ME KNOCKED OFF HERE BECAUSE OF THE NATURE OF THIS QUESTION - I AM REALLY LOOKING FOR ADVICE AND HELP!!!

Right so I'm freaked out and have preferred the Anonymous self to ask for help on the Internet.

the nitty gritty:

-I have a Soft/Weak Erection that lasts for no time at ALL. Really pathetic and it happens ALL the friggin time. Like I do NOT get Hard. No "Strong Like Bull". This has been happening for about...1 month?

I am
-30.
-In shape. Active. Non-smoker. Sexually active.
-I'm not traumatized.
-Haven't EVER taken drugs
-I'm with an AMAZING girl now and Oral Sex is starting to get tiring and we'd both like to make it like dogs in heat.
-No stress but this goddamn problem.

I mean I dont want to play ego here but I've NEVER had any problems like this before. Yeah sure I had a few nights in the past where NOTHING happened but thats normal and I was nervous as hell or drunk.

This is starting to feel chronic. Meh. I'm looking up at the banner at the top of the window where it says "How do you feel today?" well The AnswerBank I feel like friggin crap. Fix though and I'm a-OK.

I mean like should I get some viagra? This Girl is WAY too hot/smart/cool to lose. And It'd be nice to know my equipments good too.
I did use Viagra once before - no effect.

MEGA thanks in advance,

[B00]

It sounds like your totally in awe of this woman- do you reckon that could be half of your problem?

[BeFrank]

Hi Yoshimoto - join the club!!
I posted something simular on here last week:
http://www.theanswerbank.co.uk/Body-and-Soul/Q uestion315761.html

The best advice i got was no "playing with yourself" or alcohol for a period of say 2-3 weeks.
I'm only just trying that, and can't say its making a whole lot of difference at mo, but its still early days (about 4 days so far)

Good luck mate - you are not alone!! (and if these women weren't so bloody lovelly you wouldn't feel half as bad!!)

[drestie]

I think a trip to your GP is in order. There are many causes for erectile dysfunction, both psychological and medical. Best to get thoroughly checked out in this situation.

[China Doll]

Boobs might be on to something. Does your new girl make you feel nervous? You said it happened before when you were?

I know it might feel embarrassing but have you thought about going to your GP? We can't diagnose over the internet really and it might help put your mind at rest if you knew everything was in good working order so to speak?

[raysparx1]

The thing is yoshi the mind and the donger are working together,sounds like you are trying to hard,need to relax a bit, and try not to worry,the more you worry the worse it will become, can you get erection when she isn't with you ?

[yoshimoto]

Hi boo

I totally am in awe of her she is amazing and i love her so much - she feels the same too and were moving intogether in the new yew year!
But i really want to get this sorted.

Hi Drestie: I know, but i'm not really sure how to approach it and what could the problem be?
- i might not like the answer

[havinmysay]

well u sound very angry and worked up if this girl really likes u she will wait. u gotta relax and just go with the flow have u thought of a visit to your gp?
By the sounds of it your panicing that your gonna lose this girl, has she made any hints that she is getting fedup?

[crete]

yosh. if this is a genuine problem then there is no harm in seeking advice from your g p . males will give you a better answer but your g p has much more knowledge and im sure it may be a common problem good luck , ignore any unhelpfull replies

[Waaii]

Why not agree to give full sex a miss for a week or so, you can still have fun. No genital contact of any kind though. This is supposed to work. If you wake with one there is probably no physical problem. She's new and you are a bit tooooo keen to impress i'd say. Take it easy!

[yoshimoto]

Thanks guys,

I'm bassed in london at the mo. due to work, but my GP is back down south and not sure when i'll get back down. Can i just walk into any GP and ask for an appointment, does anybody know?

And in answer to most of your questions, no she is saying it really isn't a problem for her and is in fact going the other way and saying she can't wait for us to live together and share our lives etc..

[havinmysay]

dont fret then it'll happen in time like most of us have said just relax and before u know it u'll be at it like rabbits xx

[crete]

you can register at a g p on a temporary basis .

[China Doll]

Have you always had this problem together then or is it a recent development?

You can walk in to a GP's closer to home and ask to register with them. They will then deal with getting your files transferred to London. The reception staff should also be able to advise you on whether you can see the doctor before your records are shifted... in my experience you are usually able to.

[yoshimoto]

Hi china doll,

We have always had this problem together - but she is the first person i have slept with in 4 months so not really shure how long this has been going on for.

[China Doll]

Ok... I was just wondering if it was a recent development.

Get yourself to a GP and get everything checked out. That'll relax you about that area.

Then start with the advice you've been given by some of the lads in here about not doing anything sexual for a week of so.

If there's nowt wrong with your bits and giving yourselves a space doesn't work then you might want to consider trying RELATE. But hopefully the combination of the first two should get you sorted. Good luck.

[netibiza]

Don't get too het up about it, just kiss and cuddle for a while with no expectation of full intercourse, and maybe one day it'll happen because you won't be fretting about it. If she wants full sex, use a "rabbit" and have fun together.