Bottom eye lid fluid

[stressdad]

Hi, when my daughter was 2 she had what i thought was a blackhead come up by her bottom eye lid (to be exact right of her lower eye lid). I kind of picked it and a few days later it fell off. I noticed some months later that her lower eye lid would look puffy when she squinted, looked up etc, also what looks like vein light blue/grey shows in the lower eye lid. My wife always has said it's nothing and not to keep worrying about it, but i do. My daughter is now 7, has never said anything about it (IE noticed it, feels pain/discomfort). I can't stop worrying about it, feel guilty, hate myself, feel i'm a bad dad etc etc. So you say "take her to a doc", here's my probelm. Take her to the doc and she will become worried about it (she's a nervous little thing), wife will kill me and as it's not caused any problems will i be making a bigger deal of it ? Not sure what i'm looking for really, any advice greatly received. PS I know i'll burn in hell for this so please don't remind me. Thanks

[beryllium]

Hi stressdad,
Has your daughter never had to visit the doc for anything in the last 5 years?
If she has, and there was something noticeably wrong with her eye I would presume the doc would see what it is you're 'seeing'?

You could always ask the school nurse to have a look, just casually...???

[saxy_jag]

OK, so you picked it. It's not a crime - most of us have done something similar (my dad was always at my blackheads).

If you're worried, mention it to your wife (she'll be a bit peed off but I doubt she'd actually kill you) and decide whether the doc ought to just take a look at it - or you could even get a pharmacist to look at it initially.

Whether your daughter says anything about it is irrelevant. If it was a mole that was getting bigger, would you leave it, even if she didn't complain? And how the heck would you forgive yourself if it turned out to be something nasty but curable if only you'd caught it in time?

[sunday]

Don't mess around with eyes; take her to the doctor. It's better to know for sure there's nothing seriously wrong with the eye now than wait for it to turn chronic.