Transexual transvestites they're everywhere

[VorVZakone]

Ok first can someone tell me what is the difference between a man and a woman? As in, even after someone has gone through the special surgery, maybe even facial, or wears a lot of makeup, there is often I think something about the face especially that shows they are/were a man. It's very weird, because I can't,,,,er,,put my finger on it. Some woman naturally have a face that has masculine characteristics, but you can just tell that they are probably a woman.
Second, can someone please tell me while transexuals like to flood onto all the big 'dating' esque sites, like hotornot dot com and freedating dot co dot uk, and dont declare 'I was once a man'. Don't prospective mates have a right to know? Were they trying to conceal it from them? Do they go on these sites just to see how well their op is accepted?
Have a look at these sites, look at the over 40 year old women. About half of them are/were men. I don't know how they pull it off.
What makes so many men want to 'become' women?

[pinkkitty]

People who have Gender Dysphoria (sometimes known as a gender identity issues) are born, not made.
A friend of mine who is a post op transexual once told me that post mortem examinations of "men" who identified as female had got a female brain structure inside their body which is otherwise male. Some transexuals are lucky enough to become passable females. - I have a stunning transexual friend who looks very much like a natural born female, and you would never know she was born a man unless she told you. because of the amount of testosteone present in a male body as it develops, men just naturally have a very masculine looking body - big hands, broad shoulders, square jaw, etc etc. Plus they have been socially conditioned to act in a male way their whole lives, most are forced to hide their true nature which is why their decision to undergo gender reassignment comes as such a shock to their friends and loved ones.
I can't speak for dating sites, having never used one, but i think that once a person has undergone gender reassignment surgery they have every right to be treated as if they were the gender that they have always felt inside. Certinly they are legally recognised in their new gender role and get a gender recognition certificate which effectively replaces their birth certificate.

[haysi06]

"People are people". Regardless of sexual orientation or sexual realignment people deserve to be treated equally. Granted, I do think that you can usually tell that a post op 'woman' was born a man, but then beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

[VorVZakone]

I don't think it comes down to the rights of the postop, I think a prospective mate/mate has an inalienable right to know the initial gender of the person they are dating. A good way to clear this up is to make it clear from the *very start* what your original gender was. You may feel all woman, look all woman, but as far as a relationship goes, it's up to the person on the 'receiving end' to decide whether your original gender or the change are still relevant.
I asked this once before somewhere and was told that if such an arrangement was later disclosed, the transexual would be on the receiving end of a certain amount of violence by the deceived. A pretty harsh response, but if people are proud of their new gender identity, or saw the reassignment as rightly putting their body in conformity with their spirit, as it were, they should be only too happy to be open about it. If people have a big problem with it then that was their problem, let the chips fall where they may.