James

[4getmenot]

http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/news/arti cle1082807.ece

I dont know how to feel about this. Its a horrible thing she has done if she has killed him but also I am feeling sorry for her and knowing how hard it must have been to care for him.

[andrea81]

I know what you mean, it's a hard one to be judgmental about and I sort of feel like she might have been pushed to her brink with looking after him. It's such a shame (if thats what happened) that she didn't feel there was enough support for her!

[4getmenot]

yes there are homes he could have been put into but then maybe she loved him that much she couldnt bring herself to put him in a home.

[squarebear]

"maybe she loved him that much"?!
I'm glad my mother doesn't love me as much as that!

I can't really see any valid excuse for killing him.

[andrea81]

Ye, after all it's her son and she's been looking after him for 22 years. So many people had so much good stuff to say about her.

[4getmenot]

through his life and then things just got too much.

[jno]

I can't even imagine what it must be like having to be the carer for someone severely disabled like that. That's the sort of job for professionals; to have to devote all your own life to it must be crushing. I have total sympathy for her. If she is ever charged with anything I hope she gets off: she has already served 22 years of hard labour, more than most of us will ever understand.

[4getmenot]

but then I guess its a bit like the debate with euthanasia is it right at end of day she killed.

[jno]

whoops, sorry, bit of a brainstorm there - of course she won't be charged with anything - I somehow had it in the back of my mind that she'd been found alive but of course she wasn't

[4getmenot]

ha ha didnt even think of that when I read it

[youngmafbog]

We dont have the facts. We should not judge.

[4getmenot]

Who is judging?

[4getmenot]

I;m sure we can have feelings on this. I;m not saying she is horrible blah blah blah. I said I dont know how to feel.

[sandbach99]

James could have died from natural causes, , ie during a fit, the TV says post-mortum is inconclusive.

I wonder if money was behind all this, immediately on his death all benefits would cease, probably around �600 per month, if the family could pretend all was well the money would still be paid.

The mother could no longer cope with the grief and the deceipt so she committed suicide, or she was going to inform someone so had to be disposed of

Whatever happened it is a terrible shame

[daffy654]

I don't want to pass judgement on this family,it is not my job to do that and without the relevant facts, impossible to do. Can I just say though that to find a place in a home for a disabled child is difficult,even for respite care.What we have to remember is that James was an adult and it would have been even more difficult to find somewhere for him. In many parts of the country carers are just left to get on with it,I know I have been with my son.I get no social services help whatsoever and haven't had any since he was born.
All I can feel for the family of James at the moment is sorrow and pity.

[4getmenot]

I;m not quite sure where the 2 people being held fall into this

[sandbach99]

The 2 people have been released without charge per TV