will i ever find a man

[dippydawn]

Hi everyone you might think im being shallow but im really worried, Im pregnant with my first child to a man i adored and thought we'd be together forever, supose everyone thinks that dont they??? well things didnt work out and he left and now Im worried, not about bringing my child up as i have a very close family and know I will always have suport but Im scared that I will always be alone,, Do men ever date single mums and if so where do you meet them cos i wouldnt know where to start???

I know i may sound stupid but im just worried i will grow old alone

thanks xxx

[naflharrison]

there is someone out there for everyone and you will find a man when the time is right who will not only love you and your child but will treat your child as if it were his own, they are out there believe me, i no!

[chino-cube]

you know

[chino-cube]

you won't do without dawn, blokies think single girls with babies are easy and target them!

[Rosetta]

Aw bless you dippydawn. Of course there is someone out there for you. Your baby will take over your thoughts and your life for a while, but love will happen again

[karenmac60]

I was on my own with a 2 year-old and it was just the 2 of us till she was 8. Then I met someone through work and have been together 4 years and married 2. I got the best of both worlds - a very close relationship with my daughter for 6 years and now that she's getting older and spending more time with friends etc, I have a marriage that is fresh and new, not stale from years together with nothing to talk about but the kids. You'll make it work for you and you'll be happy, don't stress so much, just enjoy time with your baby when it comes. Good luck x

[Suetheramble]

Stop looking. Build your own life. The best partners are found when you are not looking.

[HJT40]

Of course you will!! I was a single mother for ever, or so it seemed, Mr Right nows popped their heads round the door every so often, as they will. But I have found a gem and I wouldn't be without him for the world, my Mr Right!

Men do date single mums, but take your time to find the right one, he may not be the first that comes along, but you will find each other!

[Tups]

dippy dawn, be careful not to be too desperate for a man. Enjoy your pregnancy and your baby and forget about men for a while. Unmarried mums are easy targets for one night stand blokes who see them as an easy lay. Consider your child - which you will, as soon as it's born - above all else. Imagine how awful it would be for that child to have lots of different men coming to see mummy and seeing you getting upset and distracted. My own daughter is in the same situation as you. She has learned to enjoy her independence; something she never thought she would be able to do. She doesn't want a man near her child (now 2 years old) at the moment. When she is ready to date again, she will want to view any prospective man as a potential daddy to her child. If he doesn't fit the bill, she won't go out with him. Perhaps people will think that's a bit extreme but when you're a mum, your priorities really do change. That's if you are a caring mum, which I'm sure you will be. So don't panic, enjoy your independence and, most of all, enjoy Motherhood exclusively for a while. You will know when it's time to start wanting a partner again.

[zzxxee]

i fell pregnant stupidly after a short relasionship at 18 met a violent partner when my daughter was 2 stayed with him for 7 years finally had the courage to leave was on my own for 5 years and met my lovely fiance who ive been with now for five years so 3rd time around it worked for me the answer is yes you will meet someone but dont be in a rush enjoy your child and find out who you are and you will in time attract the right man who wont care if you have a kid or not its ok to be happy and single