ex forces ajusting to civvy life

[zzxxee]

my ex has been out of the sbs special forces for 5 years now and is still ajusting to civvy life. hes told me certain things that happened in iraq and there is much more he has not told me. he still has flash backs and is comimg to terms with deaths of friends but wont see a counciller what can i do to help?

[Ethel]

Persuade him to see a counsellor - his Force association should help.

If he's not willing to do that, there is not a lot you can do

[puddicat]

I agree with ethel seems he needs professional help, there anyone in your family like a brother or dad tor mate that could maybe get through to him????

[zzxxee]

ethel i did explain he wont see a counciller and your advice is persuade him to see a counciller ?????????? is there anyone with any really useful advice maybe who has a forces background?

[puddicat]

zzxxee i am ex forces female though, maybe a ex forces male aber will be able to advise you better!!!

[Sachs]

Hi z, is he still in touch with any forces friends he could go and have a chat & a drink with privately?

[CAJ1]

Would he be willing to write down everything he has experienced and seen on a piece of paper? He doesn't have to show it to anyone but it may help him by getting it out of his system. My bf is in the forces and he says a lot of people struggle to adjust to life after. Is there any groups of people like him who have left and meet up?

[zzxxee]

only one who is a cronic alcaholic and he does not see him only in touch every so often by phone

[zzxxee]

no groups io no of locally cant go in to to much detail but most of his good friends are no longer here,

[CAJ1]

http://www.mfsg.org.uk/links/linkList.asp?link CatID=6

Try this link and see if any of the websites have advice.

[zzxxee]

thanx will do

[CAJ1]

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/programmes/panorama /4691801.stm

Try this too

[zzxxee]

thankyou very much caj1 very usefull x

[CAJ1]

No problem, I hope he gets better zzxxee. I can't even to start to imagine what he or others are going through x

[zzxxee]

me to thats the trouble with the armed forces when your in your so looked after when your a civvilian there is very little help because they pretty much turn their back on you

[CAJ1]

I know what you mean. I hope you're ok too as having to help him through this and not knowing everything must be hard on you too.

[zzxxee]

sounds like you have had forces expeience to well hopefully things will get better

[CAJ1]

My bf is in the raf so I kind of know how it works. Give me a shout if you ever want to chat x

[zzxxee]

thanks will bear it in mind

[16AFA]

Hi
I'm ex `forces (Infantry 10 years+ RAMC 11 years). Served in N.I, Gulf war, Bosnia, Afghanistan

I'm told that these guys are fantastic.

http://www.combatstress.org.uk/

[zzxxee]

thankyou16afa will pass on the info you have given