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There are no strong family friends as if this had been the case we would have "enlisted them" by now. I know what you are all saying, I think Panic's right in saying that we need to forewarn him first, as this way he can fall out, spit the dummy, hit or whatever, but it may make him realise that we have all HAD ENOUGH of him and his behaviour.
If we leave it it will be me that feels guilty as I did nothing, so doing soemthing or doing nothing - that's the question, and although it sounds obvious, it's so hard when it's someone you love. Not just that, but it's almost like everyone is being punished through his drinking, and not even an hour after it happening last weekend, my mum was talking calmly almost like she had forgiven him again, and I know it's only her putting up her "protective" cover for my brother and everyone else, but I wish she would stop as this behaviour is ripping the family apart and it needs to stop and now. I am going to talk with my siblings to ensure this is what they think is right too.
His bullying got so bad at the weekend I was almost doing something I hugely regretted, and not shopping him - far worse, he had me reeling. I think my brother will get there first anyway, and that's hat everyone fears is them coming to loggerheads over it as they are both about the same size now.
I just don't know what to do for the best, although Panic's suggestion of telling him sternly that if he goes out in that car I am going to call the police on him, and see his reaction.
It's all so near Xmas now too, and there is no good time, although I can't sit back and watch this all happening, I only visit once a week or fortnight, I am not constantly living with it although I feel sometimes this is how it feels, as it's constantly there if not happening, being spoken about wihtout his knowledge.
Thanks again folks
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