Mom always asks me to buy her things

[ts00614]

Within the past few years, my mom on occasion had asked me to buy her something (clothes, meds, make-up) things like that. And I did. Within the past 5-6 months however though, she seems to ask me for things several times a day. It has now gotten to the point that if we are out together and she asks for something and I can't get it, even if I just can't afford it, she's gets crazy. Slams the product, down pouts, acts like a little kid. It's extremely embarrassing. Whenever I go out somewhere or buy something new and she finds out, she brings it up for days trying to guilt me. She has even went as far and to stealing my things, clothes, make-up, purses. She has the money to get things herself. It's really ruining our relationship. I got engaged last year and now with all the wedding planning going on, she's getting worse. She's decided to wear a white, cleave showing, mini dress (she's in her 50s) to the wedding. I don't know if I'm being uptight but I find it completely inappropriate. I don't understand why she's acting like a child and trying to make me unhappy. She gossips like a high school girl again and always tries to get my siblings and I to fight. I've even overheard her telling other family members and friends things that didn't happen at all. Claiming that we're always hitting her up for money or stealing her things when it's actually the other way around. I just don't know. If tried to talk to her but she freaks out and says I'm crazy and that she's not doing anything wrong. What's going on with her?

[jno]

possibly jealousy, the thought that you're going to be leaving her for another. It hits people in strange ways. She may calm down once you're officially married.

[society]

Is your Mum taking any medication?

[woofgang]

mmm meds or a mini stroke spring to mind....could you get her to visit the doc?

[Brinjal]

Mum sounds like she has jealousy issues for sure. Either that or she is losing the plot.
Do you get on with your siblings. Have you discussed this with them

[sara3]

this is one for Graham and the Aftercare team..

[tamborine]

rent her out as Edina in Absolutely Fabulous

[LoftyLottie]

A mixture of age and jealousy. Perhaps she didn't have a good time in her youth and is trying very hard to have what she never had before. She wants to be one of the girls. It's very sad. She needs some help. No good getting cross with her.

[anneasquith]

maybe mum is unwell,how does she act around her other children ?

[ts00614]

She acts fine to the others. She always tries to make it seem like I'm horrible to her and so mean, but they know that's not the case. She always makes up crazy lies and tells everyone different versions. We've spoken to each other about it but we don't know what to do. She actually got recommended to a counselor by her general doctor but said that the counselor was mean to her and stopped going. It's getting to be that I can't stand being around her. I feel bad, it's my mom and I shouldn't feel like that. But it's so embarrassing. People stare at her as she throws her crazy tantrums. Last winter I took her to dinner and all she did was complain, silverware was filthy (it wasn't), I offered to switch, she refused, said the service was bad (it wasn't), prices too high, food wasn't good. She even said she thought it was in bad taste to let a waitress have not enough make up on. She is always complaining about anything and everything. I just don't know if I can continue a relationship at this point. What can I do at this point?

[China Doll]

Does your mother have a history of depression?

[lumination]

not to good on the realtionship advice with your mum acting like a child. but i would tell her that her acting like that is bringing you two apart.
as for her wearing white to YOUR wedding? i would be fuming. its spiteful.

[China Doll]

It doesn't sound like a simple case of mum throwing temper-tantrums to me. However, getting her back to her GP might be difficult. If this is an alteration to her personality, I would wonder if there's something else going on. Such as depression or perhaps a mental health issue.