Behaviour when out and at other peoples houses

[numnum]

What do you give your children rows for when out at other peoples houses?

I dont know if i'm being OTT but my 2 1/2 year old has always been interfeering and a climber and i think we now need to put a stop to this as shes at the age where she knows whats going on.

Also, i'm thinking when we're out we cant have her climbing on tables if having a meal and when at friends or families houses i make sure she gets down imediately if she climbs on their couch, chairs, bed etc even if their child does it.

I'm not wanting her to think she can tear through folks houses but i'm finding when i tell her to get down when out, the family members say its okay she can do that and then it makes me look silly when i'm trying to start diciplining her as she will take the mikey.

I've always automatically took her down from the table, chairs etc so its something she never gets away with but is just an interfeerer

[boxtops]

She's at the exploring age! but I think you are right, you want to set the same standards in other people's houses as you would in your own. It amazes me how much other people will tolerate in terms of other people's kids - I don't - and I must admit if I were your friend and your daugher was climbing on my table, I would tell her myself to get down. I have always held this view and it has been surprising how many mums get annoyed when I tell their kids off in MY house, if the parent doesn't - I had to set ground rules with one friend - your kids in my house abide by my rules. Your daughter's at an age when she will start testing you - I support your view, you are her mum and she should do what you say.

[woofgang]

baseline is, she is your child and its up to you (within general good manners) to set the boundaries wherever you are. Not the same but similar, my dogs are not allowed to jump up but they do try with visitors, some of the men actually like it and want to rough house with the dogs. I never allow it and politely say sorry but I don't allow that with anyone. I don't think that instilling good manners in your child ever make you look silly.

[woofgang]

PS that kind of climbing is DANGEROUS too.

[society]

If you don't make a point to have the child listen and obey your attempts to correct and teach her manners, then she'll think it's ok. Also, you should do this at home so she'd understand it's not alright to misbehave and climb on furniture.

[numnum]

thanks, i wish you were my family!!!

yeah, it just makes me look silly. its even just small things like being at the MIL for lunch and my 2 1/2 year will not eat then i'll say something to her then my boyfriend then the MIL will start doing role plays and prancing about and i'm just like for god sake she doesn't need 3 adults to try and make her eat when out. stop giving her attention. if she's not going to eat it then dont make a fuss because thats what she's wanting then i end up sitting in silence while they make a fuss

i think maybe what i'll do next time a family member is here an their children jump on the couch i'll tell them to get of so the parent sees i'm not happy and might but out when i'm telling her not to do it at.

i don't normlly say anything to friends if their kids are jumping on the couches because i don't like it when they interfear with me but i think its a good idea if i'm doing it the way you do when your in the right because i don't think its right. they have a playroom with plenty toys theres no need to be climbing on things

[numnum]

that is true aswell. its very dangerous.

a lot of my friends that do let their kids run riot they will listen if they say get down or thats enough now, where as my daughter just seizes the moment and it can lead to accidents and thats what i'm trying to dicipline her for aswell

even though they think its okay by letting them run on the couch my daughter really needs to know thats a no go because of her interfeering and that 2 feet need to stay on the ground

[woofgang]

Is your BF the child's Dad? With respect I reckon you need to have a serious conversation with him about parents singing off the same hymn sheet....then tackle Mil

[numnum]

i have to laugh woofgang. when i said we needed to discuss discipline i said exactly what you said about singing from the same hyme sheet and he said 'what does that mean' hadn't heard that one!!!! lol

he's also the father

[woofgang]

better to get this sorted between you now before babe is a teenager....