Ex and the new date

[KaceB1]

Hey.
I meet a fabulous guy 2 weeks ago and we really hit it off. We have alot in common and I seem to be at ease with him. However, I went out with a guy back in December for, a few weeks and it really affected me. He treated me awful. Locked down a relationship status with me and forced his family on me in the space of 2weeks of us dating. However, I gave hime the benefit of the doubt, thinking he must really like me. All the while he was picking up schoolgirls and sluts behind my back, which really affected my confidence as I am a virgin and believed it was all my fault cause I wasnt "putting out". However, the red flag should of been clear when he asked was I a virgin on facebook.But I kept the ignorance up.

He manipulated everything. From me to the break up. Made me feel bad about his mistakes while we were together.

And, few months on, Ive built my confidence back up. And Ive got what I finally wanted.
A college place, started driving,plenty of job interviews and now, a new guy to date. My look has also changed for the better and I feel good.
However, I cant help but think of how awful I was treated beforehand and I keep wondering, will it happen again.. After that last guy, I was really torn up. Not because of him but how I was treated and fooled! It was a bad experience to say mildly. He was a horrible person.
I guess I am just scared of this new guy. He's a catch,smart and friendly. I just dont know how to go with the flow without getting scared or screwed over again.
I dont want to tell him about any of my worries cause I think he could be ideal for my personality and I dont want to mess it up.

Anyone have advice? Anyone go through something similar?

[boxtops]

Good grief.

[emu777]

Bad experiences can taint things...however this guy you were seeing in dec was preying on the weak/vulnerable...why did he ask you were you a virgin on FB??? As you said yourself that was a red flag..
However you've accomplished a lot since and built your confidence up...you don't need to be a victim or 'prey' for some weirdo. Take control of your life (which you're already doing) and trust your instincts...you won't go far wrong :)

[boxtops]

Some guys unfortunately have a habit of making everything "your fault" - that first one sure did. Put it behind you - it wasn't your fault - you have moved on. Enjoy what you have now!

[puddle-duck]

You had a lousy experience with that guy but don't let it taint any future relationships that you might have.

You've said yourself that you feel good, carry that through, think positive. Not all guys are bad.

Just take things slowly & as boxtops has said just enjoy what's happening in your life now.
Hope it all goes well for you.

[craft1948]

I'm losing the will to live on here tonight................