Today is the anniversary of my husband`s death. The week in hospital before he died was horrendous and I have very painful memories of what happened to him.
Yet today I feel happy. I have had cards, flowers and "thinking of you" messages from friends. Doesn`t thoughtfulness give you a lift?
you have had the last year to get over the dreadful time of that last week, and the thoughtfulness of your friends has helped you get past the pain and move on - but not forget your loving husband. i am happy for you that this anniversary is not as painful as it might have been.
i was at my father's bedside in the last few days of his life, and he died as i was talking to him .. for weeks afterwards i was a mess, but like you i had friends who were there for me, and i eventually got through. now i spend the anniversary day at his memorial and look back on the good times in his life. please add my best wishes for you to those you have already
Absolutely, your OH would, I suspect, be really happy that you are moving on, fond memories, painful ones but I am guessing that the former by far outweighs the latter.
You could always tell him to stop scratching and eating his favourite snack - it's disturbing your opera of life.
Thank you all for the wishes, kisses and hugs. Made me a bit tearful as did putting red roses on his grave.
He died four years ago but the hospital inquiry and inquest took almost two years and certainly lengthened the grieving process.
Yes, he would want me to be happy. He always did and his last words to me as he died were funny.
Too cold outside today so am now wallpapering the dining room and remembering the "this will lead to divorce" banter when we decorated together.
And yes DT, I can still find things to tell him off for!
Thank you Dee. Miss him, especially as he should be still here. Have great friends though, and lovely people on here.
I would sing, "I Will Survive," but with my voice I would soon be friendless and visited by the noise patrol from the council.
Glad it`s lifted you too Kiki. I have been taken out every night this week to make sure I don`t dwell. When he knew he was dying he apologised for leaving me but said he was comforted by knowing I would be cared for by our friends. I hope it has made me more caring of them. Well, except the eejit who said my cooking was lousy!