Terrible Neighbour!!

[jd_1984]

Some may recall my post regarding our neighbour who woke me, my partner and her 4 year old up after banging on the door and windows repeatedly because our side gate was rattling, at 3am. He approached the matter with a degree of aggression and I was quite angry at his manner.
There was a division in the replies I received, some saying this was out of order and others saying that the neighbour was fairly justified.
Anyway, several moths have elapsed and this is now not an isolated incident, leading me to confirm my original suspicions that this guy is a total a***hole!!
He has rung the RSPCA twice because our other neighbours keep 2 dogs outside between 9am-3pm. The RSPCA responded but found that the dogs had water, food and suitable shelter and therefore no action to be taken against the owners. He had alledged mis-treatment of the animals but there was none found. He simply doesnt like the occassional barking (we have barely noticed). He doesnt seem to work even though he is only 45 ish and spends most of the day at home and clearly the occassional "woof" has driven him to this action.
My car was parked a fraction over his driveway (I am talking 1 inch) this was during the snow and ice and I didnt realise I had parked a couple of yeards forward to my ususal position.
He saw me from between his blinds whe I was leaving for work the next day and I got a motuhful!
He also shouted at a neighbour for putting her wheelie bin up against his part of the wall (she did this because she was brushing leaves and didnt put the bin back straight away).

So we as neighbours are feeling a bit annoyed. It is a lovely little cul-de-sac and everyone welcomed us to the road warmly. But nobody can make a small mistake without fear of this grumpy twit making a massive deal out of it.
Ouf first encounter with him was when he shouted at my partners 4 year old for kicking a football in the garden because it hit the shared fenceline twice!!

Suggestions for our next move, do we politely speak to him about our concerns and his issues with us a s neighbours. It is not a police or ciuncil issue, yet. But these things can esculate!

[jd_1984]

Apologies for some of the spelling by the way. Typing too fast!

[dollie65]

this need to be nipped in the bud straight away..keep a diary record of everything this neighbour is doing to show at a later date if need be...if it were me i would get in touch with my enviromental health deparment for advice as to what to do next..

[tamborine]

he doesn't own the road outside his house or the rattling gate.....just keep annoying him

[squarebear]

Indeed. A few taxis/pizzas/junk mail sent to his house might not ease the situation but should make you feel better :-)

[jd_1984]

Id love to send him pizza's and taxi's. He has probably upset that many people he wouldnt know who to blame!!

[gness]

What would I do? One more chance....I would invite the neighbours... including him.....in for a drink and some nibbles. If he refuses or ignores then you will have to consider reporting him if he is being abusive.

[pastafreak]

If he is being abusive-that's a form of anti social behaviour. Call 101-it's the Police number for non-emergency reports (here in Plymouth anyway-I'm sure all areas have the same or equivalent). They will send officers around to hear both sides.

[netibiza]

send a funeral director there...................

[quinie]

I didn't see your first post jd_1984. Does he live alone?Might he have some degree of learning difficulties or mental problems?

[pastafreak]

*splutter!!* ^^^^

[pastafreak]

oops-mine was for neti's answer.....

[snags]

''I would invite the neighbours... including him.....in for a drink and some nibbles''

I'd love to be a fly on the wall at that gathering!

Unfortunately it sounds like 'rational thought and reasoning' will be beyond his grasp. I guess killing him, chopping him up in to little bits and feeding him to your other neighbour's dogs over a period of months is not a realistic option...

[shoota]

See if there is an arbitration service run by your council.
There is one local to me who will intercede in 'neighbour disputes'. They are independant of the local authority but have their support and they are a very useful intermediate step before taking Police/legal action.
If you have one approach them as a group of neighbours rather than an individual.

http://www.londonmediationoffice.com/

[jd_1984]

No disability apparent, no.
In fact he looks like he keeps himself very fit. He seems a recluse, never has visitors, doesnt seem to be a partner on the scene. Keeps himself private. Only hear from him when he is moaning at somebody!

[jd_1984]

shoota - thanks
Snags - If this was a Tarantino movie perhaps I would do just that!

[Barmaid]

lol @ funeral directors.

Difficult as it may be, best thing to do is completely ignore him. He will probably only derive pleasure from his actions (and this is probably how he gets his kicks) if he gets a reaction.

It's a good idea for you all to keep a diary of his behaviour so that if it does escalate (as neighbour disputes very often do) you have evidence.

And if none of that works, nip over his fence in the middle of the night and plant daffodil bulbs in his lawn spelling out the word W****R. In April/May he will have a glorious spring like and vivid yellow reminder of what you all think of him ;)

[daffy654]

I'm 44 , do not work, spend all day at home and do not look disabled, However, I have a chronic lung condition which is slowly killing me.
What I'm trying to say is that whilst he may not look disabled he might have an illness that isn't immediately obvious.

[snags]

It's grey, cold and snowy: spelling WINTER in his lawn is a waste of time, effort and bulbs surely?

[tamborine]

Blue eyes crying in the rain

[tamborine]

wrong thread, sorry