Why Do Some Couples Need Other Couples With Them All The Time?

[dave50]

I know couples who don't seem to be able to go on an evening out or go on holiday without having another couple in tow, it's as though they can't stand being alone together for any length of time. My wife and I are happy in each other's company and don't feel the need to be in a foursome all the time. What do others think?

[jno]

some people are more gregarious than others?

[boxtops]

We have some acquaintances like that, and you're right - they don't like each other very much, so they mask it by going out with other people. We often socialise with others because we like them, they're good company, but we go out on our own together too. Plus, some people aren't very confident in public (even as a couple) so tag along with others as a sort of prop.

[Baldric]

They lack the confidence to do things by themselves

[B00]

Is this question on the back of another one already posted earlier?

To answer, I dunno.

We have another 2 couples who we're friends with, and one of them is Mr Boo's best (male) friend, and we're pretty close, but we can go weeks without seeing each other. We used to holiday together in the past, but don't anymore.

[ummmm]

I wouldn't go on holiday with another couple. Weekend away maybe but not a proper holiday.

I assume they go out with other couples because they enjoy their company.

[friedgreentomato]

We quite often go on holiday with other couples we enjoy the same things so why shouldn't we?

[mccfluff]

maybe they enjoy going out with their friends....

[boxtops]

We holiday with friends on occasion - we all get on very well, it makes for an enjoyable holiday. No ulterior motive, we like the same things.

[Sqad]

dave.......I have a certain amount of sympathy with your point, as one of the advantages and pleasures of going on holiday was to meet new acquaintances which was more difficult than if one had your friends already on tow, so to speak.
Mr.& mrs sqad holidayed with that in mind, but many people are happy to go away with friends and find it more acceptable, perhaps they are shy.

I have seen many friendships imploded by continually being in each other,s pockets.

I suppose that it,s horses for courses.

[friedgreentomato]

Perhaps you don't have any friends that are willing to go on holiday with you?

[boxtops]

We have other friends who continually copy other friends - even to the extent of booking in the same holiday hotel at the same time (without being invited to go as a party). That to me shows a) extreme lack of confidence b) no tact c) no imagination d) an assumption that Friends C&D wanted them to be there.

[EcclesCake]

I'll go on holiday with others if it is an activity holiday, e.g. walking, sailing, skiing etc. I'll meet up with friends over dinner to catch up with them and have a pleasant evening.

I don't feel the need to have another couple with me and and Mr Cake for us to have a good time.

[woofgang]

no idea....also no idea why you are bothered. It takes all sorts.....

[boxtops]

eccles, that's our model too, when we go as a party. We all go together but we don't all do the same things - each couple or individual does their own thing in the daytime. Those available for dinner eat together at night..

[Old_Geezer]

What do I think ? I've never even seen your wife !

[Dee Sa]

I was amazed when a friend was recounting her holiday in Spain she said-- we were lucky we "palled up" with another couple as soon as we got there !--- I cant think of anything worse than spending your whole holiday with two strangers , surely you go to spend quality time together ? Is seems to be a British thing ?

[viv38]

It varies for me, sometimes I like just going out with OH and at others I like going out with friends for a good laugh !

[anneasquith]

I have some friends who go on holiday, meat other couples, spend most of the holiday with them, send xmas cards / attend birthday parties. and even visit for the weekend............very strange IMO

[anneasquith]

*meet .

[friedgreentomato]

Why is that strange Annea?

Is that not how friendships are made?