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crikey the feliway is expensive. her name is molly and she has now begun to head butt my hand when i stroke her chin. i believe this is a positive sign. we have had cats before but never re-homed a mature cat, only ever had them from kittens. she is coming out of her hiding place more, although still remaining upstairs during the day. she does go down the stairs at night though because i have caught her half way down when i went to the toilet in the middle of the night. she purrs a lot, but i do know that this can be pleasure or nervousness so not sure which just now - both probably. from previous experience of cats, they are lazy anyway and like to sleep 23 hours out of 24 so this is probably her normal life. all the cats we have ever had, plus next doors which like to come in, like the hiding place under the bed on an old mattress we keep for when the kids stay en masse. looks like this year one kid at least will be sleeping on the hard floor!!! i am hoping to be able to keep her here over christmas with the small positive signs i have seen over the last 24 hours, and that it is 3 weeks to christmas i am hopeful she will have settled in.