Hi, do you feel out of your depth sometimes in understanding what he's going through? Sometimes a partner doesn't pick up on real moment's of anguish a person grieving is going through & just don't know how to help. At those times the person who's grieving just needs a hug / asking how they are feeling or how you can help. If that's not happening, it can lead to frustration. I lost my father last year, there were times I felt I just needed an arm around me, needed to cry freely with the person closest to me. Sometimes that didn't happen, with me I would just be flat or go to bed earlier. It's that feeling of, why aren't you picking up on this? Why don't you put your arm around me? Of course, in reality, some people are way out of their depth dealing with a grieving partner, not everyone can & I realise that now.