Sorry For Depressing Posts

[jennyjoan]

As I say for depressing posts today. Another friend rang me earlier to tell me that she had been to her doctor's and her doctor told her she has dementia. Now I know this appointment would have been made by her son as friend wouldn't be capable making it.

I asked her several questions - what did doctor do - I dont know, what did she say - I don't know. Only knew she took a blood test which I know she needs to go back for result. She to me - oh have I.

Well I had foreseen this some time ago but when a doctor says it for real - then it becomes real. This friend of mine (don't know whether any of you remember or not - but she literally can't stop talking) so anywhere she goes - people move away and it is very embarrassing. I have spoken to her about it over the years but she ignores it and now this.

She lives with a son who is in a world of his own - comes in makes a cuppa and lives upstairs. She has another daughter in Tennessee who has also 5 children and friend now wants to see her (she needs her).

My question is what will happen to her if she gets worse (she is very very lonely) and won't join clubs there and abouts where we live - he (son works) and there is nobody here to "take care" of her. Thanks for any answers.

[ummmm]

Social Services will advise.

[Samuraisan]

Does she live in the US ?

[jennyjoan]

When do you get them in - cos sista and I think she has "slipped through the net" as has had epilepsy for 51 years and nobody intervened there.

[jennyjoan]

Sammy no in Belfast - daughter lives in US

[jennyjoan]

Also my sista wants me to ring son and ask this and that - I don't think it is any of my business. Friend also has another sister who just buried her husband two weeks ago so don't think she'd be too interested.

[ummmm]

Get someone to phone them with their concerns or the GP will call them.

[jennyjoan]

Well Ummmm - that would have to come from the son and as I say he will go into denial re this

[Samuraisan]

I would definitely get in touch with her daughter. She needs to help.

[Samuraisan]

How sad.

[jennyjoan]

I am in a right state right now - between her with dementia and other friend having to endure more chemo - just just can't take it all in.

I can't get access to the son as there is only a landphone - anyway I would be afraid he could tell me to mind my own business

[jennyjoan]

Sammy the daughter lives 2 planes away with 5 children and has had her own health problems plus the relation between daughter and mother has been fractious in recent times

[mazie]

My Mum's Doctor would not confirm Dementia (although she suspected it)without a brain scan. The Dementia was then confirmed (Vascular) and Social Services were requested by Mum's doctor. Can you talk to her son Conne?

[jennyjoan]

Well friend could hardly say the word dementia not as in saying but more in remembering it. Went on to have other conversations re other bits but all I got no, I can't remember no, I can't remember.

If I got to see the son I could mention it and perhaps suggest about the Social Worker. Who knows (since friend doesn't) maybe GP unbeknown to her and the son may get things on the ball.

[jennyjoan]

Mazie I have known for quite some time listening to her but like everything - she was lucid at times so went into denial.

[mazie]

Such a shame, sorry to hear it. Me I'd pop round and have a word with the son. It's not going to get any better, that's for sure. x