Worried About My Grandchild

[fruitsalad]

My Son and His Girlfriend split up when he was given a prison sentence a year ago, soon after his x got with a new man, I've had my Grandchild at weekends since she was newborn, we have a very close bond, last weekend my OH myself and my grandchild were walking when we passed someone who was smoking a cigarette, OH and myself were saying how glad we were to have given up 6 years ago, and how we cannot even stand the smell, when our Granddaughter, shes 6 said is smoking as bad as putting powder up your nose, well as you can imagine we were shocked beyond belief, and said to her yes it's very bad, she then said her Mum and her Mum's boyfriend do it, We left it there not knowing what to do or say, for the best, we know if we cause trouble for them and tell the authorities they will stop us seeing our granddaughter, and then I would never know how she is, We are stuck between a rock and a hard place not wanting to lose contact with our Granddaughter, but at the same time not wanting her seeing this happening, in front of her.

[CapeDoctor]

Taking drugs in front of the child is bordering on child abuse imo
Some serious action is called for!

[woofgang]

You know what you have to do......

[cassa333]

You could always contact SS on the QT.

In any case on what terms are you with her? Is it out of the question that you could,talk to her?

[fruitsalad]

We haven't been on good terms we just remain amicable for grandaughters sake, I probably will have to say something to the Mother, I had already reported her to SS over something else the Mother and her Boyfriend had been up to, but they are about as useful as a chocolate teapot.

[CapeDoctor]

You are in a difficult situation,fruitsalad
Such flagrant disregard for what the child witnesses leads to me to think Mother and Boyfriend will not be reasoned with
Any confrontation by you or your husband,will I feel only end in causing distress to you.
Better to let professionals deal with them.I'm sure the local Police will handle the matter sensitively,without bringing your name up.
If the Boyfriend has any sense at all,he will accept all the blame and charges to follow.
Good luck to you both.