Abuse In Family Court

[Philta]

My son has had false historical allegations made against him in family court the judge did not want to have fact finding trial as they are historical and he feels the allegations will not change the outcome. My son ex wife has now said the abuse is still going on which again is a lie as they have not had any contact since May due to her bail conditions. The judge has now said they both have to list the last 6 incidents against each other and have evidence to prove it. My son has been abused but has not got police involved as he felt stupid being abused by a woman. What would count as abuse in these circumstances. My son did not want to go down this road as it should be all about the children. The children have been with him since May when social took them from the mother for abusing them and they ate happy with my son looking after them. My son just does not know what he can do. They are back in court in January. This has just prolonged things for a further 6 weeks

[EDDIE51]

Abuse of a man by a woman is VERY common, but it is also massively underestimated. This is mainly due to the fear that the facts will not be believed. Family courts are VERY WELL aware of this and your son MUST go to court and tell them EVERYTHING !! They WILL have heard such things many many times before. He WILL be believed and they WILL have heard such stories many times. The fact that Social Services are happy with his care for them ,is a HUGE factor in his favor. They will attend court with him and tell the court that they are happy with his care for them. The Social Service evidence will be a massive factor in his favor.

[Canary42]

/// The judge has now said they both have to list the last 6 incidents against each other and have evidence to prove it. ///

What an appalling case of passing the buck because the old fart couldn't make a decision. I sincerely hope EDDIE51's assurance bears fruition and your son is relieved of this horrendous nightmare.

[Barmaid]

Abuse is far ranging, including threats:

Physical - including the threat of physical; harming possessions; control; bellittling; constant harrassment; sleep deprivation; interrogation; controlling access to family, friends, work, social media; stalking. The list is endless.

Canary the Judge is not passing the buck. SHE has said the abuse is ongoing. Whilst he says it is not. The only way to test this is by the Judge hearing evidence. Historical stuff he says will not make a difference; but ongoing stuff may. He cannot make a decision without hearing evidence. The OP is confident that there is no evidence. If the Judge were to refuse and make an order yet this had been raised, it would be subject to an appeal. The Judge has no choice; however in view of the fact that the OP says this is a lie it is in effect setting her up to fail.

[DTCwordfan]

simply, tell the truth - at least his conscience will be clear in the longer term......

[Peter Pedant]

very useful advice from barmaid
( hi Barmaid ! kiss kiss - that isnt abuse is it?)
do as the lady says

and ydes I think the judge is being rather judgy in saying
" so what happened in the past - what is happening now?"