Hell yeah! If there's to be a Wake then I want to be there to hear what folk are saying about me ( lol) how many funerals have people attended where people stand and talk in hushed whispers about the dead person? ( hello,they don't heat you) and it's normally how lovely,how kind, how nice,how funny when in reality ,they weren't , I want to be there to answer back....and party and have fun ,all paid for with my funeral plan ;+)
I lost a friend a few years back. He had received a terminal diagnosis and was determined to enjoy his own funeral. So he arranged a wake whilst he was still reasonably fit and invited all the people who would have attended his funeral. It was a great do but probably sadder when it ended (knowing we would not be meeting again) than a funeral is. Still, it's what he wanted and we all had a good time.
No, just have a party if you want to get all your friends together. My son’s friend died recently at a very young age. It was lovely to see the old crowd back together. Just so sad that the main man couldn’t be there.
he 'Rites of Passage' series hosted by Grayson Perry last year on C4 had a section on death.
Roch Maher, nearing the end of his life after long outlasting his diagnosis wanted to mark his imminent death, it was beautifully arranged and was obviously a great joy and comfort to all involved.
I detest wakes. My father laid out the local Parish Catholic Priest at his mothers for disrespect during a wake in their front parlour.
Wife and I have updated our wills and requested no funeral.Just have a good drink if they want on their (kids) inheritance.
I think it sad that when a person has died - he/she can never hear the nice things being said about them.
Also this business of the Catholic funerals whereby the dead person is being carried by members of the family (usually men) - called "the lift".
I see the men carrying quite a heavy coffin with nervousness on their faces - probably saying "can I do this".
I was at a funeral last Monday and it took 6 men to give the first lift. I think wheeling out the dead person is good enough.
I know that this is the norm in the Catholic faith but can I say when people died years ago - they were usually skinny and not heavy. Now the majority of people I know are fattish and with the weight of the wooden coffin - it should be done away with. It is too much.
Attending one's own funeral when you're still alive seems like the ultimate in fishing for compliments.
I get it though, it seems a shame that everyone you know goes to an event, but you can't be there, so I can see why people would want to bring the date forward so they don't have to miss out.