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[jennyjoan]

Met two young ladies in my street - they live in Ballymena - but they're down for a birthday party in Belfast. One of the ladies is pregnant - Lesbians. Very happy and said it only took one "took IVE for them to get pregnant. that's all I know.

The sad thing is the ex-girlfriend of the one of lesbains lives next door to me. What a mixed up affair. The first couple I am referring to were together about 10 years. Now this newbie is pregnant.

Me I couldn't cope with all that. This is the strangest world we live in.

[tonyav]

This is the strangest world we live in.

A very strange world indeed, jj.

[Theland]

Indeed bed hopping is prolific.

[sherrardk]

Hardly a shocker, relationship ends, person starts new relationship - hardly bed hopping.

[jno]

is the ex unhappy with the way things have turned out? The same things happen with any broken relationship, they don't have to be lesbians. Men or women may be upset to find out a former partner has started a new family with someone else. Or they might be okay with it

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2019/aug/24/first-time-met-gut-wrenchingly-awkward-be-friends-with-your-partners-ex

[pastafreak]

They must be a committed couple if they went through IVF. Not the same as falling into bed followed by falling pregnant.

[ummmm]

I was thinking the same, Pasta, and IVF rarely works first time.

[Buenchico]

Things get even more complicated when both partners in a lesbian relationship become pregnant at the same time and through the same donor:
https://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/entry/lesbian-couple-pregnant_uk_58d1016be4b0be71dcf7a2ac

However children who're brought up in such a relationship might well have a more secure upbringing than many who're born to heterosexual couples, simply because they were wanted from the start (which, unfortunately, isn't always the case when a woman become pregnant in the more usual way).

[Peter Pedant]

// Me I couldn't cope with all that. This is the strangest world we live in//
neither could I
we have another fred where someone is saying that gays dont have babies
ho hum - it is a funny world my masters, and funnier on AB !

[New Judge]

//Hardly a shocker, relationship ends, person starts new relationship - hardly bed hopping.//

Indeed not. Though I doubt there was much "bed hopping" involved with the conception.

[Maydup]

Perhaps the girl next door didnt want to have children?

[jourdain2]

It is, indeed, a strange world. One of my pupils got pregnant as soon as she left school and brought her son to see us (I bought towels for her engagement party - she was quite close to our family as she was also one of the athletes in our team). A marriage never followed and my own life became complicated and I left for France - then I heard that she had 'come out' (no great surprise). She is now on my facebook page with her wife and their new son. It is odd. I couldn't have coped with this 40 years ago, but I don't have any problem now. Their lives have been really complicated, but they've won through and are very happy. The little boy seems a joy and his elder half-brother is also very well-balanced.

I suppose that what I am trying to say is that people are people and relationships are relationships and that arrangements which seemed impossible can work - and work well. It just needs adjusting to.

[douglas9401]

Indeed Joudain. The world needs to fit in with chosen lifestyles whether it wants to or not. Failure is not an option for this brave new project we've created.

It's been decreed so we better just get used to it.

[ummmm]

If only Douglas!

[lankeela]

Know two lesbians who had been together about fifteen years, then one took up with a very much older man, to everyone's surprise. Nobody thought it would last, the ex was devastated and most friends sympathised with her. Next thing we hear they are expecting a baby, and again everyone was shocked, then after the baby was born they got married. Saw them today and the child is now two, and they are the happiest couple you could wish to meet. Feel guilty for genuinely thinking it would never last in a million years.

[tonyav]

Blimey lankeela, I thought you were going to to say that once she knew that she was pregnant that she went back to her girlfriend.

[pixie374]

I know two lesbians very well who both had children via traditional methods, while remaining with their own girlfriends. Each to their own really. They couldn't afford/didn't want the hassle of IVF.

[vetuste_ennemi]

I'm delighted to see the near universal endorsement on this thread of those social experiments in child-rearing which are implicit in the new and more diverse family types: no daddy, two daddies, two mummies and the increasing popular one daddy four mummies.

The traditional family stereotype which goes back (in Europe) to Bronze Age Greece (if you remember Odysseus and Penelope - which I dare say one or two of you do) has little to recommend it and has been rightly rejected and replaced in all our inner city boroughs.

[vetuste_ennemi]

...replaced by more modern conventions.

[Mamyalynne]

The traditional family stereotype exists and indeed still prevails alongside some new modern conventions.