How Can I Stop Worrying About Being Alone In Old Age

[Raidergal2022]

I’m 38, single/female and have always been content on my own, I’d like a rather but for some reason don’t have the urge to get one

Also I don’t want kids right not either (it’s more so I can’t stand thought of being pregnant) but I could be happy without them

The thing that troubles me is I work in a hospital and I know full well that older people are just not looked after not advocated for like they are if they have their family/sons/daughters. This is a fact I’m seeing it daily

I know you can’t have children just to be supported in old age lol but I don’t know how to ease my worry about being alone in old age

I won’t have children, I don’t have brothers/sisters, I’m very much an introvert and don’t make friends easily

I can’t stop worrying about it for some reason and feeling yeh pressure of time

[Sqad]

Nothing wrong in not wanting child and if you have, don't bank on them looking after you in your old age.

There are organisations that will take care of you whilst living in your own home and when it comes to a care home, just make sure that you have made financial provisions e.g pensions, investments or a property that you own and could sell.

Having children is not the be all and end all of life's fulfilment.

[barry1010]

There are advocates that support the elderly such as these https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/social-care-and-support-guide/help-from-social-services-and-charities/someone-to-speak-up-for-you-advocate/

Hopefully you will remain fit and able to manage your affairs all your life but their are many people who need help and don't get it from their adult children or wider family. Lots of people who are married with children are lonely and worry about old age.

Maybe it would help you if you get involved in advocacy for the elderly now - find out exactly what is available, join campaigns for further/better support; I think you are in a good position to do so.

[THECORBYLOON]

How come you were aged forty-three in this thread?

https://www.theanswerbank.co.uk/Society-and-Culture/Question1783346.html

[davebro]

It may be harder having had a long-term partner and losing them than to be single all along. Everyone is different.

[Raidergal2022]

I wasn’t aged 43, but well spotted

Eitherway its a lesson not to give specific details about yourself if people are going through your past posts trying to ‘catch you out’ lol

Thanks

[dannyk13]

//I wasn’t aged 43, but well spotted//
So how old are you?

[Bobbisox1]

Could be Corby just remembered your name and they type of question , I doubt if anything untoward was meant by him looking , I had someone check on me who hadn’t posted since 2017, it’s no big deal

[aelmpvw]

corbyloon, she may have been talking about her elder sister, who knows?

[THECORBYLOON]

She has said in the Question, "I don’t have brothers/sisters"

[aelmpvw]

ok, older acquaintance, not necessarily female :-)

[rowanwitch]

You don't stop but you just put things in place, keep your affairs in order,make advance directive regarding medical treatment etc if appropriate, make a few good friends, make sure at least one is younger than you.....and they know your wishes. Keep as fit and mentally active as you can and hope for the best. I dreaded getting old but its actually not that bad I find I don't worry so much about what people think, and that helps a lot.