Confused!!!

[alijangra]

Ok a while back I posted a question about if it was normal not to have a maternal urges, I really thought I didnt want to have children.

Now Im not sure. Im due to start university in September and will be 32 when Im finished, then I would have to work for a year. Now Im worried Im putting off having a family, I have all of a sudden started thinking about having a child! I have never, ever felt like this.

I have been on prozac for last couple of years and have recently managed to come off it (4 weeks ago). Am I going a bit mad? I dont want to speak to my partner about it because I know he would love to have a baby and I dont want to get his hopes up then change my mind in a months time!

Nothing else in my life has changed so I dont understand these sudden urges to have a child!!

[redcrx]

Ive just had my first child at the age of 32 so dont worry that at 32 you are too old.

It is possible to go through periods in life when you do or do not feel maternal or broody.

I would suggest that you see how you feel in say 4 months time. if you are still considering it then maybe suggest to your partner that you try in a years time or something. itll give you a chance to decide if its really right for you.

I fell pregnant with my partner after only 3 months of seeing each other. It was a shock to both and throughout my pregnancy it didnt really sink in that I was gonna be a mum even though ive always been a maternal person. Our son is now 9 months old and we have never been happier.

I wish you all the best with whatever you decide to do.

[alijangra]

Yes I agree its not something to rush into. I will give it a while just so I know the medication is well out of my system and its not affecting the way I see things.

[redcrx]

Id say that being off medication is more likely to give you a truer way of seeing things. But a baby is a serious change in your life, if I was in thats situation i would give myself time to adjust to being without the prozac for a while first.

[jno]

they do come upon women without warning sometimes, regardless of drug regimes. But because it coincides with you coming off the Prozac, it would probably be wise to think about it a while (32 isn't old; whatever you are now is even less so.) A baby is for life, not just for Christmas and all that, so you need to be sure. Good luck.

[kick3m0n]

I agree ali, just give it some time and see how you feel. If the urge stays with you, maybe you could even defer your Uni entry for a year? Nothing's impossible, my sis in law did her 1st year of her degree while pregnant, and then carried on with her degree while bringing up my nephew. Witha supportive partner and family, it's do-able, so you can still go to uni etc if you want. Oh, and I had my son at age 32, I'm now 35 and haven't ruled out another one yet.