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Overcoming a Phobia
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Hi, I wondered if any AB's had over come a phobia and if so how did you do it.
I've got a particular phobia which is actually starting to rule my life in terms of where I can and can't go, so I think its time I took some action and got help.
I've got a particular phobia which is actually starting to rule my life in terms of where I can and can't go, so I think its time I took some action and got help.
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.lou, is your phobia of a highly specific thing ? I saw someone cured of a terror of loose shirt buttons.
Is it on the other hand more general, maybe a fear of crowded places, traffic jams, feeling trapped, no loos available, that sort of thing ?
The first type of phobia can be tackled head-on, the second is trickier and relates to fear of loss of control. Having been a martyr to the latter, my experience is that it is unlikely to be eradicable, but you will gradually find more good days than bad ones, and it goes hand in hand with how settled and satisfying the rest of your life is.
Is it on the other hand more general, maybe a fear of crowded places, traffic jams, feeling trapped, no loos available, that sort of thing ?
The first type of phobia can be tackled head-on, the second is trickier and relates to fear of loss of control. Having been a martyr to the latter, my experience is that it is unlikely to be eradicable, but you will gradually find more good days than bad ones, and it goes hand in hand with how settled and satisfying the rest of your life is.
RQ, I did not steal from your last question, although I am still musing about ladies' smalls lol !
You raise an interesting point. Some phobias do not incapacitate, e.g. fear of flying is simple - don't fly. Others are more pervasive. Take the traffic jam example. You are 'trapped' and out of control of the situation. On a single-carriageway this is not so much of a problem, you can turn round and escape. On a dual-carriageway or a motorway however you are stuffed.
Just an example. Same as going on the Underground. OK 99.999% of the time - but what if the one time you go on the Tube the train breaks down and you are trapped underground in the darkness ? With other people there to witness your discomfort.
You raise an interesting point. Some phobias do not incapacitate, e.g. fear of flying is simple - don't fly. Others are more pervasive. Take the traffic jam example. You are 'trapped' and out of control of the situation. On a single-carriageway this is not so much of a problem, you can turn round and escape. On a dual-carriageway or a motorway however you are stuffed.
Just an example. Same as going on the Underground. OK 99.999% of the time - but what if the one time you go on the Tube the train breaks down and you are trapped underground in the darkness ? With other people there to witness your discomfort.
Hi there, it's birds in particular pigeons (I feel sick just typing that word)
Some people will think I am mad but I just go into a complete panic and either feel rooted to the spot with fear or just have to run, its awful and as you can imagine they aren't easy to avoid!
There's so many places I wont go because of it and its really affecting my life.
Some people will think I am mad but I just go into a complete panic and either feel rooted to the spot with fear or just have to run, its awful and as you can imagine they aren't easy to avoid!
There's so many places I wont go because of it and its really affecting my life.
Yes darling whiffey - [email protected] why?