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Opinions on Dummies and Nappies
Right i need your opinions and advice on two things that are in debate...
First of all DUMMIES.
I want to try and avoid using dummies - my mother never used a dummy with me or my brother and my opinion is that if i baby never sees or uses a dummy they will never know what it is and won't require/DEMAND one. My cousin is having trouble getting his son to give his dummy back - and i think this situation can be avoided by never giving the child a dummy in the first place. What are you opinions?
Second thing is Nappies - Cheap and Cheerful or Pricey and Professional? We bought x80 PAMPERS nappies for �17.99, Boyfriends sis bought x20 TESCO nappies for something like �2!!??
What is the difference...? Surely it's not just the brand name that makes the prices so significant?
First of all DUMMIES.
I want to try and avoid using dummies - my mother never used a dummy with me or my brother and my opinion is that if i baby never sees or uses a dummy they will never know what it is and won't require/DEMAND one. My cousin is having trouble getting his son to give his dummy back - and i think this situation can be avoided by never giving the child a dummy in the first place. What are you opinions?
Second thing is Nappies - Cheap and Cheerful or Pricey and Professional? We bought x80 PAMPERS nappies for �17.99, Boyfriends sis bought x20 TESCO nappies for something like �2!!??
What is the difference...? Surely it's not just the brand name that makes the prices so significant?
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On Dummies:-
Your baby may be a suckler and need the constant sucking movement to be soothed. They may be ble to soothe themselves if they can find their fingers/thumb but if they cant and they are moaning it might be that you give in just for some peace and quiet.
On Nappies:-
Every child is different. With the eldest of my two godsons his mum couldnt get on with pampers, constantly leaking coming undone and various other reasons so she went to huggies and with the younger one she couldnt get on with huggies so she used tescos for during the day and pampers for at night!
Your baby may be a suckler and need the constant sucking movement to be soothed. They may be ble to soothe themselves if they can find their fingers/thumb but if they cant and they are moaning it might be that you give in just for some peace and quiet.
On Nappies:-
Every child is different. With the eldest of my two godsons his mum couldnt get on with pampers, constantly leaking coming undone and various other reasons so she went to huggies and with the younger one she couldnt get on with huggies so she used tescos for during the day and pampers for at night!
hi Nat,
I was exactly same as you when i was pregnant about dummies. I was adamant that little CRX was never going to have one. One week after his birth and the only time he would settle was when he had something to suckle on. Thats fine if youve got a finger, bottle or nipple available but not always practical so i gave in and gave him a dummy.
when he was tiny, he only had it when settling and asleep and now its only for bed (when he gets up he puts it away himself)
In an ideal world he wouldnt need to suck on anything but he did and tbh I'd rather a dummy that can be removed as he gets older to a thumb that you cant take away.
The problem with motherhood is that you can have some great ideas about how youre going to deal with situations but until they arise you'll never know if its the right decision hun.
As for nappies, they are all different. I tried pampers and they leaked with first wee. Once little CRX slept through the night they needed to hold a lot of fluid and Ive found that huggies are the best for that with him.
Ive heard that pampers are best for little girls but really just see how you get on.
I was exactly same as you when i was pregnant about dummies. I was adamant that little CRX was never going to have one. One week after his birth and the only time he would settle was when he had something to suckle on. Thats fine if youve got a finger, bottle or nipple available but not always practical so i gave in and gave him a dummy.
when he was tiny, he only had it when settling and asleep and now its only for bed (when he gets up he puts it away himself)
In an ideal world he wouldnt need to suck on anything but he did and tbh I'd rather a dummy that can be removed as he gets older to a thumb that you cant take away.
The problem with motherhood is that you can have some great ideas about how youre going to deal with situations but until they arise you'll never know if its the right decision hun.
As for nappies, they are all different. I tried pampers and they leaked with first wee. Once little CRX slept through the night they needed to hold a lot of fluid and Ive found that huggies are the best for that with him.
Ive heard that pampers are best for little girls but really just see how you get on.
Hiya,
As usual Redcrx has hit the nail on the head. You can go into parenthood with all kinds of ideals and opinions and once your there do a huge U-turn.
I was adamant not to use dummies for all the reasons you gave in your question, however when faced with a baby who just wants to suck for comfort, sore cracked nipples, getting up for the fifth time in the night because they wanted comfort to get back to sleep again, I was more than happy to introduce a dummy.
For nappies - I found shops own & Huggies caused nappy rash and Pampers were great (for girls & boys). Of course you could peruse the terry nappy option.
The main thing is to leave your options open and compromise if you can.
As usual Redcrx has hit the nail on the head. You can go into parenthood with all kinds of ideals and opinions and once your there do a huge U-turn.
I was adamant not to use dummies for all the reasons you gave in your question, however when faced with a baby who just wants to suck for comfort, sore cracked nipples, getting up for the fifth time in the night because they wanted comfort to get back to sleep again, I was more than happy to introduce a dummy.
For nappies - I found shops own & Huggies caused nappy rash and Pampers were great (for girls & boys). Of course you could peruse the terry nappy option.
The main thing is to leave your options open and compromise if you can.
Everything been said by everyone already really so i will just say that its personal choice with the dummy thing there is no right or wrong way. my son had a dummy he is now 3 and still wants it at time im due in 6 weeks and have bought dummies but im gonna try and not use them just because i dont want to give if he doesnt really need. As for the nappies i just bought a box of 80 from asda for �10 so i wud defo go there...
ps i plan to use Terries though once i get settled at home so im just looking at those at the moment
ps i plan to use Terries though once i get settled at home so im just looking at those at the moment
I wasn't keen on using dummys, tiredness made me give in and try one at about 6 weeks, but no.1 son wouldn't take it so we went without - he found his own comfort by pulling up his sheet and sucking on the label. Was same with no 2 son. he wouldn't take a dummy and in fact he wouldn't take a bottle until he was 6 months old - he also ripped up his sheet and sucked on the corners - until he was about three, he would take a spare sheet to bed and suck on 2 diagonally opposite corners - never touching the other two! He called it a sheepeet - aww!
As for nappies - you may find that you need to regularly change brands - I used to like the Kirkland brand that you get from costco as they were cheaper than the major brands but good quality. Both boys were allergic to the waistbands on Tesco and Asda brands - at night, we had to double nappy - as no matter what we used, they could never cope with a night time of pee!
As everyone has said, it is good to have a game plan, but don't beat yourself up if you need to deviate from that in order to maintain your sanity!
As for nappies - you may find that you need to regularly change brands - I used to like the Kirkland brand that you get from costco as they were cheaper than the major brands but good quality. Both boys were allergic to the waistbands on Tesco and Asda brands - at night, we had to double nappy - as no matter what we used, they could never cope with a night time of pee!
As everyone has said, it is good to have a game plan, but don't beat yourself up if you need to deviate from that in order to maintain your sanity!
i found dummies help settle my daughter but taking her off them was a nightmare my sister didnt give her son one and found other ways too settle him she didnt have the nightmare task of trying to get them off him i will not be using dummies in the future as it was heart braking taking them off her
nappies i used pampers at first as did my sister then as the babies got older we used cheaper ones both worked as well as each other but dont go too cheap beacause you end up in a world of caca literaly we both used george and found them brill
nappies i used pampers at first as did my sister then as the babies got older we used cheaper ones both worked as well as each other but dont go too cheap beacause you end up in a world of caca literaly we both used george and found them brill
I debated too about whether or not to let my daughter have a dummy but like its already been said, the suckling is a comfort for them. You may find that they find alternatives themselves such as their thumb or finger which is fine til their teeth start coming through and when the time comes to stop them. You can, with patience, take away a dummy, but you cant take away their thumb!!
I agree that, when it comes to nappies, every child is different. I first tried pampers, but that just made my daughter sore, I then tried Boots and Tesco, they were useless in my opinion. I found the best one for us was Huggies. I have no complaints at all with them. So much so, they will definately be my first attempt in finding the right nappy next time around!
I agree that, when it comes to nappies, every child is different. I first tried pampers, but that just made my daughter sore, I then tried Boots and Tesco, they were useless in my opinion. I found the best one for us was Huggies. I have no complaints at all with them. So much so, they will definately be my first attempt in finding the right nappy next time around!
hi there i think about your dummy situation is out of sight out of mind try only giving the little boy it on night times, if hes at an age where he shouldnt have 1 at all then try and get him to give his dummys to the poorly children who need them coz santa passes them on it worked with my sister, put them in an envelope and post them to santa for the sick children then prase him for it and get him to tell everyone so he thinks hes great, and a few sweets would go down well as a treat. and the nappys, personally i wouldnt use cheap nappys as i have had mates that have used cheap nappys and there kids have had extremly bad nappy rash, some kids are ok with them, but others arnt. i dont think that they last very long either (i mean they told as much) x
play it by ear. if you do decide on a dummy, i found that taking them away at about 6 months was best. You can leave them to settle at that age, and you wont have to make up some storey about giving them to the dummy fairy, you will also save yourself in dental bills. as for nappies i prefered huggies, others i know didnt seem fussed and used cheapy's, my sister (mother earth) used washables.x
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