Would you take back a repeatedly unfaithful partner?

[AB Asks]

A relationship counsellor's husband made a revelation after 25 year's of marriage � he had been repeatedly unfaithful throughout their marriage. Her husband had even had an 18-month affair with her best friend. However, in the end this woman took back her cheating husband and insists that his ways have changed and that now they have a more open, honest and understanding marriage that is better than ever. What do you think? Could you ever take back a partner who had repeatedly been unfaithful to you?

[Reverandfunk]

No way pedro

[cazzz1975]

no, by cheating not just once but numerous only displays the lack of respect. How can you take someone back and pretend that things are normal? you would keep checking on them and being suspicious if they are late ect.

the minute there is a bad patch off he will go to do it again, sorry but I dont believe that a cheater will change

[Katie~77]

No

[China Doll]

I think you never know what goes on behind closed doors and why this couple do in their relationship is their business.

I don't think you can ever say 100% what you would or wouldn't do until you find yourself in that situation. However, I'm quite a proud person so I suspect that I wouldn't. But like I said, who knows? It's not a situation I ever hope to find myself in.

[jno]

maybe, who knows? I do know that people can change.

[Ethel]

I wouldn't.

But I'm surprised at the answers so far in light of the previous questions, where the majority seem to think nothing of having sex with people they have just met.

If sex is so unimportant that casual sex is the norm - then why get steamed up about this issue?

Sex cannot be so meaningless that it is fine to give it away to strangers, yet so vitally important it would wreck a marriage.

[andrea81]

I know people who have had a fling and things were not quite right in their marriage. After a while they just got it out of their system and the marriage is solid now!

Just think that it's not all that black and white!

[funnygirl]

I agree with the others. NO WAY!!
He will not ever change and you just go on being hurt.
Any woman who takes back a man like this, cannot love him. I would not be able to trust him.
Time to get some respect and a decent man!

[Reverandfunk]

Personally I have had a lot of one night stands, through choice because I was single and could and always had a rule that if someone was married, engaged, seeing someone etc I left them well alone.

When I'm in a relationship I am totally faithful and if my other half snogged someone else to me that is being unfaithful and that would be it.

[Ethel]

Reverendfunk -you wouldn't know your one night stand partner well enough to know or even care if they were married or partnered.

[Reverandfunk]

Fair point Ethel, i'll change it to not knowingly then lol

[Ethel]

legend - the point I'm making is that if sex is so unimportant to you that you have one night stands, it shouldn't matter if your partner does a little unimportant thing like have sex with another.

[sense4all]

I am thinking ... Car battery , crocodile clips, scrotum !!! .

[Mr k]

NO

[Carakeel]

I have learned that life is too precious to waste on people you cannot trust. So, no, I would not take a partner back who repeatedly or even once felt the need to be with someone else. I did several times in the past and paid a very heavy price for it. My life has taught me that I can actually be very happy long-term without a partner. It is a different kind of happiness, but it is just as valid.
After choosing to be on my own for 20 years, my Ratter found me and it just felt so right to be with him. I truly love, trust and respect him! But he does know that if I ever felt he were becoming too close to someone else, I would ask him to leave. I believe that if you love your partner, then you will never let anyone else feel they stand a chance of taking liberties with you. If you don't love your partner enough to do that, then don't stay in the relationship! After all, trust that has been broken cannot really be repaired fully. I have found that knowing you are capable of being happy on your own is a wonderful thing. It allows you to be with someone because you truly want to with your whole heart, not because you need to. It gives you the confidence to totally be yourself. This in turn gives your relationship a better chance of success as it is based on honesty, which in turn breeds trust. It is silly little slip-ups that can lead to people outside of a relationship mistakingly thinking they can take liberties. But if two people really love each other, both partners will make every effort to ensure that a wrong impression doesn't endanger a wonderful life together.
End of sermon! LOL :o)

[neonskyz]

in my opinion i would never ever take back my partner if they did that i would rather stick my fingers in a socket than do that

[ir miss odd]

Maybe if it was just once i could forgive them but never get back with them. ever! if the guy cheated once whats to say he wont do it again.

[delta733]

i think it depends on the type of person that you are as to if you would take them back. Low self asteem and fear of being alone can drive people to act as others with confidence may not.
Personally a relationship without trust is not a relationship but everyone thinks differently i guess.