single mum

[shell1]

im a single mum nd every time i meet a guy nd he finds out i av a kid they run a mile!!is it jus me or do other single mums get d same treatment?

[GeordiePengy]

I have the opposite experience, whereby everytime I meet a single mum and try to get to know them, they become very closed and difficult to know. Understandable if they've been hurt before. However, it doesn't enable me to try and get close to them which is frustrating. As a result we end up being nothing mroe than friends.

A friend of mine is a single dad with 2 kids and he has the same problem. Even single mum's avoid him!

[shell1]

iv become that way too! well from my own experience iv been rejected so much that at this stage i find it hard to get close to guys!if al guys were like u then u wuldnt be gettin shut out nd i wuldnt be complainin now :)

[Goodsoulette]

I'm a single mum, I have dated a few guys since taking that status. One thought it was a problem, although he never said that and dated me a while before we went our separate ways.

Im a little wary of the blokes looking for a ready made family.

[GeordiePengy]

I really understand it when single mums are scared of being hurt, after all they have their children to think of as well. It's just frustrating when you meet someone and they are like that. Sometime I just accept that being friends is all that will happen.

It doesn't bother me if they are a single mum or not.

[Goodsoulette]

ahhhhhh!!

bot on the other side dont you worry that you might become part of more than one persons life and then it all messes up and everyone gets hurt? How soon do these women introduce a man to their kids? I havent gotten that far yet!

[GeordiePengy]

Some blokes aren't after a ready made family. The fact that someone you like has kids or not is to me irrelevant.

[sleepyj]

GeordiePengy
is lovely xx

[Petal~flower]

I am a single parent too. I don't have a social life to meet any nice men, as all my girlfriends are married with their own families. So have no one to go out with (sob sob) I don't think I will ever meet anyone : - (

[GeordiePengy]

Good point there, but I suppose it's a risk you take. You see it from that point of view, I just see it from mine. I accept that one reason why single mum's may be harder to get close to is the possibility of the kids getting hurt as well as themselves.

[sleepyj]

GeordiePengy
you run from me lol

[Goodsoulette]

watch yourself Geordie ur gonna have a big queue of Answerbanking single mums following you around now.

[GeordiePengy]

Thanks sleepy

And Petal, you will.

[sleepyj]

GeordiePengy
is very nice looking and very nice shame im not single xx

[GeordiePengy]

lol @ Goodsoulette

[Petal~flower]

Am right behind you Goodsoulette ;-)

[Goodsoulette]

Behind sounds like a plan Petal arf arf......then my masive arse could eclipse you from all view.

[sleepyj]

shame he talks funny thats what put me of ;)

[bigmamma]

oooo pity I am too past it to join the queue ...lol

[GeordiePengy]

Ha ha!

I never said I was looking for a single mum, or a ready made family. I just think that it is irrelevant if the other person has a kid(s). I'd still make an effort with the kid, as much as I could, without marginalising either the lady or the child(ren).

That make sense? lol

[Petal~flower]

Goodsoulette, I bet you are lovely. Anyway, think he has legged it.

Oy, bigmamma, no queue jumping!