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Im confused - not sure whether it is 'chemistry' or not?
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Hi,
Keep this as simple as possible. Met a guy online a month or so ago...we spoke on msn and text eachother almost everyday for a couple of weeks then met up in a club for a few hours...all a bit of a blur but fun nonetheless. Texts continued and we got along so well, made eachother laugh all the time.
Anyway, we decided we needed to finally meet up to see how we felt about eachother. In sum, I had a great time but didn't want to jump on top of him. Sometimes I fancied him, sometimes not but was laughing all w/e and felt unbelievably comfortable with him. We both commented on how it felt we'd known eachother for a lifetime.
Got back and chatted about it all last night and he said he thought I seemed disinterested and so he backed off, not wanting to get his hopes up. He said he thinks I am great but thinks friendship is the best way forward. Once I told him I did like him but was 'sittin on the fence' he said we should meet up again soon but I can't help thinking if he really liked me, he would have said instead of just assuming I didn't like him.
I am not sure if I am stopping myself from liking him because we live about 1hr 30 mins away and I have commitments some weekends (only for another couple of months) OR whether because I didn't want to jump on him, the chemistry isn't there.
Can't stop thinking about it but not sure whether it's because I am really drawn to him as a friend or because I like him.
Not sure anyone can really help me to gain perpective here...I'm confusing myself.
Keep this as simple as possible. Met a guy online a month or so ago...we spoke on msn and text eachother almost everyday for a couple of weeks then met up in a club for a few hours...all a bit of a blur but fun nonetheless. Texts continued and we got along so well, made eachother laugh all the time.
Anyway, we decided we needed to finally meet up to see how we felt about eachother. In sum, I had a great time but didn't want to jump on top of him. Sometimes I fancied him, sometimes not but was laughing all w/e and felt unbelievably comfortable with him. We both commented on how it felt we'd known eachother for a lifetime.
Got back and chatted about it all last night and he said he thought I seemed disinterested and so he backed off, not wanting to get his hopes up. He said he thinks I am great but thinks friendship is the best way forward. Once I told him I did like him but was 'sittin on the fence' he said we should meet up again soon but I can't help thinking if he really liked me, he would have said instead of just assuming I didn't like him.
I am not sure if I am stopping myself from liking him because we live about 1hr 30 mins away and I have commitments some weekends (only for another couple of months) OR whether because I didn't want to jump on him, the chemistry isn't there.
Can't stop thinking about it but not sure whether it's because I am really drawn to him as a friend or because I like him.
Not sure anyone can really help me to gain perpective here...I'm confusing myself.
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Christ on a bike love, anyone ever told you that you think too much?!
Put simply... Do you fancy him? As in, would you like to swing from the rafters with him while doing the funky chicken in your undies?
You know you get on with him on a personality basis, you seem to think quite highly of him. So basically, how does the idea of taking the relationship to a more intimate and physical level make you feel?
Also, take in to account he's probably as nervous as you are. And if he wasn't getting the 'vibe' from you then of course he would back off. I would too in that situation.
Good luck.
Put simply... Do you fancy him? As in, would you like to swing from the rafters with him while doing the funky chicken in your undies?
You know you get on with him on a personality basis, you seem to think quite highly of him. So basically, how does the idea of taking the relationship to a more intimate and physical level make you feel?
Also, take in to account he's probably as nervous as you are. And if he wasn't getting the 'vibe' from you then of course he would back off. I would too in that situation.
Good luck.
i met a guy online and it started as friends. I told him that i wasnt interested in a relationship as he lived 70 miles away and worked weekends etc etc. 6 months after starting to talk we met and things changed
3 months later we were expecting our first child. now 3 years on theres another babyCRX on the way and we are very very happy with how everything turned out.
3 months later we were expecting our first child. now 3 years on theres another babyCRX on the way and we are very very happy with how everything turned out.
1st lol china! hilarious
but 4 real, stop thinking about it soooooooo much
damn lol i do the same though
i'm dating a guy (didn't meet him online) but he's on post in another city abt 65miles away
we see each other on the weekends...so you can make that work
trust me the anticipation makes it that much better....lol oh yea...sry lost my train of thought there 4 a min
lol
but you're obv interested or you wouldn't be thinkin abt this non stop
go for it
ya never know n u don't wanna think...what if?!
but 4 real, stop thinking about it soooooooo much
damn lol i do the same though
i'm dating a guy (didn't meet him online) but he's on post in another city abt 65miles away
we see each other on the weekends...so you can make that work
trust me the anticipation makes it that much better....lol oh yea...sry lost my train of thought there 4 a min
lol
but you're obv interested or you wouldn't be thinkin abt this non stop
go for it
ya never know n u don't wanna think...what if?!
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