hi leelapops, hope youre not in too much discomfort with your mouth as i know what its like.
i have had an abscass or something in my jaw bone area that rears its ugly head every now and then.
when its at its worst its absolute agony!! unbelievable pain and i get massive swelling and inflamation on that side of my face.
the last time it was like this, a few months ago, i kept bathing the area with a boiling hot flannel out of the microwave and it bought it to a head, on the outside of my face not inside, and eventually burst.
the gunge that came out of it was awfully wonderful lol and the pressure and discomfort eased by the second, it was great!
fingers crossed that little 'outburst' did the trick lol as ive not had any problems since ... fingers crossed!
im like you, i have a dentist phobia.
have you tried anbesol gel? i find it much better than bonjela as its adult strength. it feels cold and has a slightly numbing affect.
try getting some of that from a chemist and rubbing it on, i found it really good for such things including tootheache too.
anyway, i hope it eases for you very soon, and youre pain free for chrimbo :o)