hypothetical - gift giving unexpectedly -

[joko]

i am just curious about what people make of this...it did happen to me once some years ago but it was film that made me think of it again

basically - if someone does you a favour...and there is no expectation of a thankyou gift or anything...if you then decide to be nice and get them a little something as a gesture, just to say thanks...how woudl you feel if they just complained that it wasnt expensive enough...??

given that originally they had expected nothing...

is it better to just 'say the word thanks', than say it with a simple cheap gesture gift...? - my mate suggested it was worse somehow...

personally i think it is disgusting that anyone given an unexpected thankyou gift should complain at all...

does it depend on how big of a favour they had done?

cheers

[4getmenot]

I would be really peed of they have done it as a favour if they wanted to charge then maybe they should have given you a quote first, cheeky gets!!

[funnygirl]

I would have shoved it up where the sun don't shine!!!!

Ungrateful beggars!

[sn�gs]

''personally i think it is disgusting that anyone given an unexpected thankyou gift should complain at all...''

^ ditto...

''does it depend on how big of a favour they had done?''

Not in my book... if a favour is done with no expectation of a thank you gift or anything... then 'anything' received should be an unexpected bonus...

[Sachs]

A very shallow person & one to avoid joko!

[China Doll]

I do someone a favour it's just that, a favour. The only thing I would expect in return is the possibility they might do you a favour in the future as a result but that would be a bonus rather than a given.

[Ice.Maiden]

I'd be hugely embarrassed if someone spent a lot of money on a thank you gift for me.
Just a small token of appreciation might be nice, but I'd rather just hear a heartfelt "thank you" than actually be bought anything.
If someone moans that an unexpected gift isn't "enough", then as sach's said, they're shallow and not worth bothering about again.

[noway2]

I know you say hypotheticly,but If someone did me a favour,like give me a kidney or some other lifesaving organ,then yes I would give that person a decent present,like a car or a holiday.if I could afford it.and as I cant,they will have to make do with something from the euro-shop.

[joko]

yes noway - i agree soemthing of that magnitude warrants more than a bottle of wine and thank you card eh


all that happened to me - years ago now - i had a temporary 4 week job in feltham and a guy i didnt know agreed to give me a lift in the mornings to work as he literally passed my accommodation on the way and picked up a few others on route too...the bosses of the job organised this with him for me before i arrived
we became quite pally, but not especially close...but when i left i bought him a bottle of wine just to say thanks - bout a �5 bottle...and i overheard him call me a 'tight get'...

i recall mentioning whther he wanted petrol money an as no-one else was paying him i didnt either.

just irritated me, cos it was a whim and a gesture...it hadnt occurred to me to get him anything til near the end and was going to just say thanks

anyway i saw someone in a film complain about a gift left for them only bein a $4 bottle of champagne...
just reminded me and i thought id see what others shtought...
thankfully i havent seen him since