What would you do?

[tinkerbell23]

In such a predicament ...

Have a "friend" who i once let move in with me when she went through a seriously bad time even though i only had a one bed flat!

Eventually she got pregnant and engaged and it was a toss up between me and another friend for god mother/ maid of honor and i got maid of hon.

Since then- at xmas she had 4friends round to all exchange xmas gifts but didnt see fit to say to me to come because i had said during the week that i try to pop down ...thought that was pretty sh1t tbh. As dis my other friend who actually asked at the time where i was.

Then she never thanked me for the babys xmas gift which i had made even though im currently on JSA.

In jan she TEXT me and said she dosent want a maid of hon anymore and im just a normal one same as everyonelse (yeah right) dont even want to be it anymore- doubt i am anyhow!!!

In feb i was down one night for a curry so everything was fine and between then and now shes arranged more than one night out with all my friends but not me :0(

She didnt send me a card gift or text for my bday even though we always do? And eventually facebooked me at 10pm saying happy birthday

Its hers in a while and ill do the same. My question is it the babys 1st bday. What do i do!? Im not goin to party dont even know details actually. Do i send a card/gift/ or just fbook like she did? Few folk have said nothinh.

Mutual friends party soon too would like to not make
It awkward for anyonelse- my other mayes are really mad at her because i havent done anything wrong :0( x

[Traci66]

I would talk to her tinks and try and find out what is going on with her, maybe she just doesn't realise what she is doing.

[Traci66]

^^^ having babies does funny things to you. xx

[Joanne130]

Sounds like she's drifted apart from you, i would send the card to her baby but don't bother with her birthday just fb her late in the day the same as she did to you, she may have honestly forgotten as she's now so busy with her baby, tough one but if you really believe she is purposefully snubbing you then do the same to her, but if she's got no real reason to do so then i'd say she's just hyper busy with her new life & isn't even aware she has offended you

[Mamyalynne]

Send baby a card and go to the mutual party - because it is just that. Try to see her as an acquaintance now rather than a close pal.

[tinkerbell23]

Not to busy to arrange nights in/out with 4 out of a group of 5 of us though ...me being the 5th!!

I think i will just feel soo bad if i dont send the baby a card and mabye a tenner cos i am still not working ...dont have mega money to spare.

Tbh i dont really want to ask her about it im annoyed at it
All but have bigger fish to fry and dont want a fight. I would be normal to her at the upcoming party though ...another friend is caught up in it all and has got in with her too which is disappointing... The rest of us just leave em too it xx

[MissCommando]

If I were in your situation, I think I'd send the baby a card and a small gift. Don't think I would give money as I wouldn't want her to know how much I'd spent.

Maybe now she's a mum, she feels like she doesn't have much in common with you anymore - like you've grown apart. Do the other friends have babies? x

[tinkerbell23]

One has...we have loads in common tbh- she organises the nights with all of the group minus me and the rest dont have kids....

Mabye yeah i should buy something....but it wont look alot as i can only spend that- even then i could do without it!! Lol.....

Thanks for the advice. X

[MissCommando]

She sounds like a horrible friend to be honest, wonder what her problem is!

At least if you do bother getting her baby a present, she can't slate you to everyone but I would definitely do the same for her birthday (don't bother sending her a card.)

Hopefully, if you stop bothering to make an effort to see her, she may miss what you had and want to see you again.

Ah, one of life's unnecessary stresses that you just don't need at the mo. Her loss, you always come across as a lovely girl to me x

[tinkerbell23]

Awww thanks Miss C.... Alot!!

Ill send a card and money but nothing for her bday....

Shes got a bit ahead of herself recently. Short memory. And i juuuuuust dont need it!!!!! Lol xxxx

[Smowball]

Tinks my lovely, she doesnt sound like much of a friend tbh. Acknowledge the baby as the baby has done no wrong, but I would let the mother just get on with it. have been in a very similar situation and I know how much it can hurt and frustrate you.

[tinkerbell23]

Sent card with money in. No acknowledgement....didnt expect one anyhow but still feel i done right thing xx