Being Alone.....

[EcclesCake]

I'm catching up on this weeks Four in a Bed.

Two of the chaps have commented on finding it difficult being separated from their partners. One of them has never been away from his partner for two nights!!!! The other found spending 2.5yrs on his own prior to meeting his partner a difficult time and is finding this time away trying.

Maybe as I can spend many months separated from Mr Cake and take a night or two per week away from home as the norm I am more resilient than some. But I find it remarkable that these contestants find a night or two away being a challenge!

The occasional evening of self indulgence is wonderful and to be embraced.......not feared?!?!

Over to you agree or disagree???

[Eve]

I do like my me time, I can happily live with a partner and have done but I couldn't live in someone's pockets.

I guess it's like some people who can't seem to get along with being single.

[gness]

MrG traveled a lot, Eccles and I loved the time on my own. I was surprised by some of my friends who, when the husband was away, had to have someone to stay over as they couldn't be alone.
Miss MrG now but have no problem....in fact I enjoy....just me and my home.

[EcclesCake]

Gness, you've reminded me of a colleague who dissolved into tears one day at work because her husband was 'leaving' her. His company wanted him to work away for a week and she was in pieces, I found it very difficult to empathise :-(

[sherrardk]

I'm fine on my own, in fact things seem to run a lot smoother when he's not here (he works long hours at times). It's very rare that he is away over night though, longest has been a week but that was not of anyone's choice and had some accompanying stress.

[EcclesCake]

That was a very different ball game for you Sherrard!

P.s. Have you collected any conkers to repel the spiders?

[sherrardk]

Not yet. They all went up the church (which is at the foot f the woods) with school today but conker collecting was not allowed. If it stops bloody raining we will go over half-term and get some. The kids think it's a fab idea (himself thinks I am bonkers).

[DTCwordfan]

I agree - speaking about the former mrs dtc, the one thing that kept us together and sane was being apart.....makes you appreciate each other.

[giveup]

My husband is away for 2 months at a time,but you get used to it and just get on with life.And the times when they he is at home is lovely.

[Bbbananas]

I love living on my own. Love it.

But then, I live alone but am not lonely. There's a difference.

[EcclesCake]

So, at the moment we've got a group of strong women who do not need to have a man about the house 24/7!

I'm surprised there have been no dissenters!

[B00]

I've always liked being alone, im essentially a loner anyway.

[meglet]

I lived alone for about 10 years prior to meeting Mr Meglet. But it was still hard when he was sent to Germany for 5 months then Afghanistan for 6 months (he's a TA soldier). I saw him 4 times in that year.

[shoota]

I'm moving in with Boo because I like being alone as well.......

[Cloverjo]

I enjoy it when my OH is away.

[society]

I enjoy my own company.

[trt]

The guy with the Newmarket pub with his female assistant (cough, cough) which is only 5 minutes away from me seems quite happy.

If they missed their partners so much, they shouldn't have applied to be in it, but no doubt it will bring in a few extra customers for a week or two, as its been on TV!

[China Doll]

I never had a problem being single and I'm happy to do my own thing at weekends from time to time such as seeing friends and family. I think you can have the best of both worlds. I don't really have any great desire to go on holiday without man hostage as those are experiences I prefer to share with him; also, he's still my favourite person to just sit and have a laugh with.

[andy-hughes]

The present Mrs Hughes is away with work a couple of nights a week about once a month, sometimes more. She is currently in Abu Dhabi until the end of November, nearly six weeks, she went last Friday.

I am perfectly fine on my own, which is not to say I don't miss her and look forward to her coming back, but I am perfectly fine on my own. I have my three girls to go and see if I want some company, or they drop in, but it's not a problem at all, I enjoy my own company.

[ClaryS]

My night on my own when OH and son go off Motor bike racing. Long hot bath, large cold wine, Bertie Wooster on the telly, homemade risotto with lots of cheese, white wine and sprinkled with prawns ( everyone hates this except me) more wine, chocolate, more Bertie Wooster or a documentary on how we are all Aliens, or something gruesome involving emergency services, finally a slug of Captain Morgan's and sleeping like a starfish in bed. Great stuff, but only as a temporary measure x

[EcclesCake]

You've summed up my perfect night without Mr Cake, Clary!

I think it is healthy that we can find our own path when alone and make time for our own indulgence whilst our partners are away.

I had intended painting my nails, plucking my eyebrows, tinting my eyelashes, and doing a general overhaul this evening. As it is, I've necked the best part of a bottle of wine.....plucking and tinting are no loner advisable.......

Mr Cake can come home later in the week to find as hirsute and unpolished as ever :-)