Fuming

[barry1010]

A new member of the adult social care has been to see my oldster. (I'm sure they only come to make sure they are still alive and not battered black and blue)

'How are you?' she asked him. 'I'm doolally tap' he told her. He is in a good mood today.

She told him he can't say that, that's not a word she uses. She made an issue of it until I put my foot down. He is now confused and upset.

As I saw her out I told her that it is a phrase that he grew up with, understands the meaning of and doesn't frighten him. People usually laugh when he says it. I reminded her that tolerance and understanding should be extended to older people, too. That he can't be expected to keep up with modern mores and allowances must be made.

She's gone off in a huff. I dread to think how she would have reacted if he were in a bad mood or having an 'episode'.

Square peg, round hole came to mind.

 

 

[ToraToraTora]

neo fascists like that should not be working in social services. Anyway it's the local town in "It ain't half hot mum" !

[elliemay1]

OMG that's disgraceful, I'd have a word with her superior if I were you!

[ToraToraTora]

perhaps he should have tried "radio rental"!

[Lie-in King]

I'd be reporting her & asking that she doesn't get assigned to your oldster again.

[barry1010]

It comes from a real army medical sanatorium.

She really took umbrage, I could almost see her bristling with indignation 

[DDIL]

Is it possible that they have been given a list of words that is acceptable and she had taken it to heart?

I do think a quiet word in her supervisors ear is useful but do it in a calm manner not both feet in like others.

[jackthehat]

I agree with L-i-K.

Some people try so achingly hard to be politically-correct that they cause offence wherever they go...

Your oldster would not have caused offence to anyone with a modicom of common-sense and it is a shame that she has left him feeling upset.

[barry1010]

I will email the manager. I can't see her lasting long in the job, I fear she would have a heart attack if she saw him on a bad day

[ToraToraTora]

14:50 then she is in the wrong job. She may be an alumni from the wokerarti school of the "correct" terms but she'll be encountering people that are not every day. Older people especially are not aware that terms they grew up with are now verboten.

[jackthehat]

Is she Northern, barry?

I know that Northern oldies regularly use 'Dollaly Tap', but it's not so often heard below Watford Gap.

[barry1010]

My oldster is Brummie through and through

[jackthehat]

Really? LoL....

That's my theory shot down in flames....😆

[naomi24]

We southern Jessies are prone to saying that.

[jackthehat]

Ok.....Ok..... I surrender.....🤣

In Northamptonshire (and surrounding areas) I don't recall ever hearing anyone say it but since migrating 'back home' I hear it fairly regularly.

[ToraToraTora]

I live on the South coast and I hear "Doolally" without the "tap". I used to work with a a fairly old lady who was always saying that about her mum in a sort comedic way!

[naomi24]

I think I'd have wanted to throw her out, Barrie.  There are times when I wish people just wouldn't bother.

[New Judge]

Anyway it's the local town in "It ain't half hot mum" !

Indeed it is, Tora. Deolali was the location of a real transit camp for troops waiting a passage home. Some of them had to wait months and the heat was said to have driven some of them crackers, hence the term (and the title of that excellent series).

Shame about the social worker's sensitivities, ken.

"She told him he can't say that,..."

He very clearly can, because he did. Perhaps she means he ought not to.

"...that's not a word she uses."

Perhaps she should extend her vocabulary. She might then be better able to relate to her older clients without trying to control what they say whilst giving them the impression she is walking around with a broomstick stuck up her backside. This notion that people in public services can tell their clients what they can and cannot say needs to be pushed back - hard.

[ToraToraTora]

....its also common round here to refer to old people as going a bit "batty" I suspect that would not be allowed either!

[Khandro]

I've heard of dolally but not tap, I just googled it & find it even has a Wikipedia page;

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Doolally#:~:text=Doolally%20tap%20or%20simply%20%22Doolally,boredom%20felt%20at%20the%20camp

 

[albaqwerty]

My late FiL said something or other, we laughed apart from one of his granddaughter's who squealed he couldn't say that these days and pc etc, he interrupted her a said he'd been saying that phrase for 80 years and wasn't going to stop now.

The wokerati are rather full of their own self-importance.