why am i so jealous?

[minimonkey]

I am single and 30 and most of my friends are married/engaged and have babies or are pregnant. I swear if anyone else i know gets pregnant or married i will find it hard to be happy for them. i am just sick of babies and weddings - obviously because i am jealous. How do i get out of this rubbish mood?

[4getmenot]

Adopt :-)

[4getmenot]

I'm nearing 30 and most of my mates have aswell. I dont get jelous but I sit there wondering what it would be like, but then I think I could have all that but choose not to at moment so why am I complaining

[crete]

the grass is always greener on the other side !

[minimonkey]

yeah i guess you are right. its just whenever the next announcement comes out i just think 'another baby aaarrrggghh'. Maybe i'll get one from Malawi ;)

[crete]

mini you dont need to go to africa to adopt a child. lone parents can adopt a child in this country now .

[laurence2]

so how long have you been single?

Do you want to get married?
Do you want children?

or are you just the unlucky type when it comes to relationships?

[Mr Tall]

get a husband from the net - try Russia or Thailand

[minimonkey]

well thats a can of worms - yes i would like to get married and have children. my ex that i went out with for 5 years didn't want to however! been single for a year

[laurence2]

So its a case of starting all over again and finding Mr Right.

Is it a ''Motivation'' issue with you, as coming out of a relationship after 5 years could'nt of been easy.

Is it to personal to ask why you and the ex split up.

[minimonkey]

because he didn't want kids basically - yes its self esteem, motivation all of those things - thought i wouldn't have to start over again and where do you meet people anyway? and when you do you start to think all the good ones are taken etc. etc. etc.

[wonderwoman1]

hiya minimonkey...i am in the exact same situation. And like laurence2 says its a case of starting over...i was ina relationship for 8 years and then another one for 3 years and you get to the stage where you think you'll not meet Mr Right but i am sure there is one for everyone!! I am just out having fun at the moment and beleive me, your married friends will wish they had your single life at times because i know mine do!! Just go out and have fun, he will come along one day when you least expect it!!!(well thats what i keep telling myself!!!) lol

[minimonkey]

thanks wonderwoman. you are right they are a bit jealous - especially when i go on amazing holidays and buy nice clothes because they can't do those things! look on the bright side!

[laurence2]

But you ''think'' the good ones are taken, you don't know for sure tho.

The more you go looking, weather this is the local pub/club/library/supermarket/ etc etc etc the more chance you have, only you know what type of fella your after, you sound like you certainly need to build back up your self esteem, theres alot more single people out there now in there 30's than at anytime over the last 20 or so years.

Do you have any hobbies ie gym, dancing etc?

[PinkFizz]

I was a single parent aged 37 when I met my partner who was 34.I didn't expect for one second to meet Mr Right at my age but I did and have never been happier : )

[bambiboo78]

hiya minimonkey, im in the exact same situation as you im 28 and single with no kids, all my school friends years ago had kids and married. gotta admit i too sometimes feel jealous but for most of the time think they dont seem any happier than me and actually in many ways think im lucky i havent had kids young, think of the good points of being kids free, sorry if i sound a bit cliched i know its no good on a lonely night when u just want someone who loves u but at least when u do meet the man ure gonna be with and have kids if u want ure gonna appreciate it and should be more picky cos uve waited and know u can cope on ure own. good luck x

[minimonkey]

thanks hun x