Friend in need...

[Rubyrose]

My mate has just split with his girlfriend. They were together nearly 2yrs and have now been broken up for 6weeks. No-one cheated or anything... they were having problems and she ended it.

He is devasted still, and I don't know what to do! He calls me at all hours, mostly drunk (he is a student), and he just goes on about how his life is over and he can't live without her! I have tried everything under the sun to make him feel better... but I am running out of ideas!

I know it's normal for him to go through this (I did.. and I am sure I was just as inconsoleable as him) but I need to make him see that thinking like this isn't healthy for him and he is making himself 10times worse!
He goes to clubs where he knows she is and kicks off when guys try it on with her! He is such a nice guy... he is just heartbroken!
Does anyone have any words of wisdom? I am losing hope and I am starting to feel like a sh!t friend because nothing I say is helping!

R x

[Joe_the_Lion]

I honestly believe that sex and/or a relationship on the rebound can be excellent therapy.

[Rubyrose]

Now there's a guy I am always happy to see.... Hey Wardy :o).. Long time no speak.

I'm a good mate but I ain't volunteering to do that! Lol.. I don't think he is in a healthy state of mind for that.. he is too vunerable!

[rugeleyboy]

yeah, i think you take things in hand!! ;�))

[Rubyrose]

Oooh RB... Nooo! Lol

Typical guy responses anyway..... He needs to heal himself before he goes and sh@gs about!!! Otherwise it will set the basis for an unhealthy pattern! Everytime he is dumped he will remember that sh@gging about sort of helped him forget so he will do it again! He needs to sort himself out and set his mind straight!

[Joe_the_Lion]

My darling Ruby, I was not for one minute suggesting you do the honours!!!!.

But, there is a good chance it is the relationship he is pining for NOT the girl. Therefore, a new bird may fill the gap.

[ummmm]

But sometimes sh@gging can remind you of the excitement of being single.....

[Rubyrose]

This is what I have been telling him Wardy.... as he was telling me he wasn't sure he wanted to be with her before they broke up and then when she ended it, he said it made him realise he loved her! I think it just made a void in his life! But he won't listen!

That is true Ummmm... I remember when I started going out after me and my ex broke up and all of a sudden my eyes were opened and it was like 'Whoa... why didn't I do this sooner?' Lol

[Joe_the_Lion]

I really think the ed should rename this site strumpetbank.com

[Rubyrose]

It's been ages since I heard you say strumpet! Lol.... oh how I have missed it. ;o)

Does anyone know why that 'Lets talk about sex' Q remains at the top of B&S?

[ummmm]

To be honest....it's not about [email protected]'s knowing you can if you want. You really do forget what it feels like to get attention off the opposite sex....

[Rubyrose]

I know! And you'd think that being in a relationship, you'd know what it's like to get the attention! But No!!! It's the opposite! Weird! I am loving the single life!

[Joe_the_Lion]

My God www.strumpetbank.com already exists!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

How od is that?

[Rubyrose]

No odder than you actually looking for it! Lol

[Joe_the_Lion]

But certainly not as odd as anybody who actually believed me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Aprilis]

Don't have any pearls of wisdom for you but just wanted to say hi Rubes, nice to see you back.

[Joe_the_Lion]

My bed-is-a-calling.

Goodnight rubes, the original AB strumpet

Goodnight ummmmmmmm, who is doing her best to become one.

xXx

[ummmm]

Lol....night night Wardy xx

[Rubyrose]

Oh... was it a joke Wardy? Lol..... I'm now almost as gulible as Ummmm.... for believing Ne2! Lol.... ;o)

Night Wardy my sweet... we are like ships passing in the night... we shall meet again I hope! ;o)

Hey Aprilis.. How is things my dear? Very long time no see.
Think the last time I spoke to you was with Spk about the pink socks! Lol

[Aprilis]

Hey Rubes, all is well in Aprilisland thanks. Aah, yes, the pink socks, that's going back a long time huh? They must have brought you good luck hon, what with the new job and you having such a full social diary. I read somewhere that you have been out and about 24/7, lol!

I was surprised when I read that you hadn't realised ne2 was FINA! I bet that brought back some memories huh? Hahaha!

[Aprilis]

I'm off to beddy-byes now sweets. I'm really pleased to see you back :o)

Nighty night hon.

x A x